Morning all,
Now there's an idea!
Lol - Poor LadyA will be running for the hills
Mil remains sniffle free and no sore throat, Spamar - I, on the other hand, feel like I have a couple of razor blades lodged in my throat and am absolutely full of it
Love the idea of a CD of photo's, Slugsta - that sort of idea is right up my street My oldest, as I think I've mentioned, has a 'thing' about bears, she collects art work that features bears, and for one of her Christmas stocking fillers, I've taken 5 photographs from our zoo visits, of the sun bear and the spectacled bear, and had them printed on to small canvases that she can wall hang as a group or free stand. I've done the same with some of the tiger shots, for Mil's friend - her house is filled with pictures of tigers, she is absolutely obsessed with 'em, went crackers over some of the pics I showed her that I'd got, so am hoping it will make a nice change from the usual gift baskets of smellies that Mil generally present's her with at Christmas
A 'good phase' as opposed to a 'bad phase' with Mil - well, we've had periods where she has sundowned every day, sometimes for most of the day, which have lasted for - well - months Combined with periods where she seems to have been unable to be anything but very unpleasant to deal with, where we have had tears and 'woe is me' from morning to night and where she seemed unable to speak without being very insulting or angry towards (mainly) me or OH. At the moment, yep - we have the delusions and the loops, but they are not every minute of the day, the delusions (fingers crossed) are not all paranoid and we have actually had a lot of quite peaceful evenings with her lately. It does feel like there is an improvement recently, almost as though she is mellowing to a certain extent - mind you, we still get the odd day/couple of days where she is really difficult - but that beats it being every day without fail!
I hope you get somewhere with the complaints procedure, if it turns out that removing you from the list in error has caused a massive increase in your wait. Such a really stupid mistake for someone to make!
I'm glad things are moving forward with the house sale, JM, but can so understand your frustration at all the stuff you have had to sort out due to your brother. Rant away if it helps you, hun xxxx Did they not take your Mum's hearing into account on the test? And again, its sad to read of yet another hospital error if they failed to follow up on the donezipil dosage - reading these forums, its fliping frightening how often that sort of stupid error seems to occur!
Dau has her mock English lit next week, followed by the exam in Feb, I think? She loves lit - not as keen on language, following her big sister's preferences there - and I don't think she is too nervous, but will be just glad to get this first one over so she can 'see what the exams are like' as she says. I get the impression her English teacher has been 'flapping' over the mocks and its made her a little more apprehensive than she would have been otherwise . . .
Well, it was clear by about 10am yesterday that I am in for it with this lurgy - that being the case, I brought forward the mega shopping trip I had planned for Monday, worried that I would be worse by then and have to postpone, and with OH's help, we hit Broughton Park shops and - aside from gifts for a couple of my friends - I've now finished the present shopping. So glad to have it all out of the way, and very happy with the gifts we have for the kids especially But boy - was it a struggle when I felt so ropey!
We got back not long before OH went to pick Mil up and she arrived home, straight through the door and refusing to take her coat off - because she wasn't stopping, she was going home, to her Mum and Dad *sigh*. We managed to calm her a little with a cuppa and by chatting about her Grandson coming home (she was convinced she hadn't seen him 'for years', rather than just the couple of months that its actually been) but she was clearly on edge, up and down the stairs, looking for this and that, a loop about getting into the kitchen to do all sorts of imaginary but urgent tasks. Son arrived home just before 8 and I really thought that it had flipped her mood over into good. But then daughters headphones were discovered missing - and turned up in Mil's room. Mil is getting a real pain about helping herself to other people's stuff at the moment Aside from the CD's she snaffled from DC last week, she's also been found in possession of sweets she has lifted from DC and when I went to get her stuff ready for her respite stay last week, I found 3 items of brand new make up, that I'd bought and assumed I'd lost before I even got them home, a couple of weeks ago - I'd left them in a bag, with other stuff, on the dining room table and discovered them missing when I took the bag upstairs to put the make up and a couple of other things away, the next day - I honestly thought I'd lost them whilst out - till I found them hidden at the very back of Mils undie drawer, wrapped in tissues - actually, a lipstick that was part of the missing stuff still hasn't turned up. Anyway, back to last night - we should have been more discrete and tactful about handling it, Mil realised we had found the headphones in her room and instantly launched into an indignant rant about how dau must have left them there herself, when she had 'shared a room with me last night', Mil insisted. She was assured that it was OK, they must have found there way there in error, not to worry, no one was accusing her of stealing - too late, she was off! She was going home, give her her coat now, insults hurled towards me as she said that she knew I was taking my dau's side and accusing her (Mil) of stealing. She was so blooming rude - Mil at her offensive best, I'm afraid - that I really struggled to keep patience (not easy when you don't feel the best) and I was glad when she agreed to OH's suggestion of meds and bed. She was as Ok as she ever is while I helped her undress, only a couple of off remarks and a lot of redirection to the task in hand needed, but as soon as she was ready and heading for her room, I got a couple of nasty comments thrown over her shoulder at me - including a remark that it was wrong of me to favour one of my children over another. Pretty sure I was back to being her Mum again in her head.
All quiet for an hour and a half, then she was back downstairs, and very obviously in a mood. She started by demanding tea, OH told her she could have water, milk or squash (we've agreed we are not starting late night cuppa's as a loop!) to take back to her room, got her her choice of milk and told her he would carry it up for her. She then demanded food - having packed away ribs, oven chips and salad for her tea - which was refused and she stormed up the stairs complaining she hadn't been fed all day.
We could hear her shuffling round upstairs afterwards - all doors locked so not much she could do - and went up to bed ourselves about 40 minutes later when it sounded like she had settled. She hadn't! OH came out of the bathroom to find her heading down the stairs and she was steaming. The smirk in place, really nasty attitude, she said she was going to get herself tea and bread and jam! (She doesn't even like jam!) OH got her back to bed and after a brief but intense argument over her insisting she always sleeps with the door open - she doesn't - she finally settled.
This business of ehr coming back downstairs an hour or so after she has gone to bed is really annoying - just when you think you can relax, she is popping up again and then we end up quite wound up before we try to go to bed and sleep ourselves
I also heard from the CPN yesterday, who tells me that the latest locum may well be in post for several months, and after hearing that the PRN meds are completely useless, has asked me to take Mil to see this new chap - I've reluctantly agreed, but warned her that if he presents me with a completely different opinion again and wants sweeping med changes, that he can s*d off - I've made it clear how fed up I am over this whole business of no continuity and being dumped with the chaos and after effects of such sweeping changes at the whim of whoever happens to be in charge each time we visit - Mil isn't a flipping guinea pig. We'll see what happens, I guess!
Dau still not well enough for school, so planning a quietish day here once Mil has gone to DC. Hoping oldest can make it home tonight (depends on if she has managed to get all her own marking and planning done or not - if not, she says she will do that tonight and be home early tomorrow) and intend to make a big pot of home made veggie chilli for tea (mil will have something different, of course) that being a big fave with everyone and very easy to make. Son is off to town on his own Christmas shopping expedition this morning, so might try and get the last of his pressies wrapped while he is out
Hope you all have a good day - I can hear Mil's fairy footsteps lumbering round upstairs so think I'll have to go sort her before she wakes the whole house!
Hi Ann sounds like you are in for a busy time with a full nest. Might be worth suggesting to MIL that she might prefer to live with someone for a while before she ties the knot. Give you a break for a while!
Now there's an idea!Lol - Poor LadyA will be running for the hills
Mil remains sniffle free and no sore throat, Spamar - I, on the other hand, feel like I have a couple of razor blades lodged in my throat and am absolutely full of it
Love the idea of a CD of photo's, Slugsta - that sort of idea is right up my street
My oldest, as I think I've mentioned, has a 'thing' about bears, she collects art work that features bears, and for one of her Christmas stocking fillers, I've taken 5 photographs from our zoo visits, of the sun bear and the spectacled bear, and had them printed on to small canvases that she can wall hang as a group or free stand. I've done the same with some of the tiger shots, for Mil's friend - her house is filled with pictures of tigers, she is absolutely obsessed with 'em, went crackers over some of the pics I showed her that I'd got, so am hoping it will make a nice change from the usual gift baskets of smellies that Mil generally present's her with at Christmas A 'good phase' as opposed to a 'bad phase' with Mil - well, we've had periods where she has sundowned every day, sometimes for most of the day, which have lasted for - well - months
Combined with periods where she seems to have been unable to be anything but very unpleasant to deal with, where we have had tears and 'woe is me' from morning to night and where she seemed unable to speak without being very insulting or angry towards (mainly) me or OH. At the moment, yep - we have the delusions and the loops, but they are not every minute of the day, the delusions (fingers crossed) are not all paranoid and we have actually had a lot of quite peaceful evenings with her lately. It does feel like there is an improvement recently, almost as though she is mellowing to a certain extent - mind you, we still get the odd day/couple of days where she is really difficult - but that beats it being every day without fail!I hope you get somewhere with the complaints procedure, if it turns out that removing you from the list in error has caused a massive increase in your wait. Such a really stupid mistake for someone to make!
I'm glad things are moving forward with the house sale, JM, but can so understand your frustration at all the stuff you have had to sort out due to your brother. Rant away if it helps you, hun xxxx Did they not take your Mum's hearing into account on the test? And again, its sad to read of yet another hospital error if they failed to follow up on the donezipil dosage - reading these forums, its fliping frightening how often that sort of stupid error seems to occur!
Dau has her mock English lit next week, followed by the exam in Feb, I think? She loves lit - not as keen on language, following her big sister's preferences there - and I don't think she is too nervous, but will be just glad to get this first one over so she can 'see what the exams are like' as she says. I get the impression her English teacher has been 'flapping' over the mocks and its made her a little more apprehensive than she would have been otherwise . . .
Well, it was clear by about 10am yesterday that I am in for it with this lurgy - that being the case, I brought forward the mega shopping trip I had planned for Monday, worried that I would be worse by then and have to postpone, and with OH's help, we hit Broughton Park shops and - aside from gifts for a couple of my friends - I've now finished the present shopping. So glad to have it all out of the way, and very happy with the gifts we have for the kids especially
But boy - was it a struggle when I felt so ropey!We got back not long before OH went to pick Mil up and she arrived home, straight through the door and refusing to take her coat off - because she wasn't stopping, she was going home, to her Mum and Dad *sigh*. We managed to calm her a little with a cuppa and by chatting about her Grandson coming home (she was convinced she hadn't seen him 'for years', rather than just the couple of months that its actually been) but she was clearly on edge, up and down the stairs, looking for this and that, a loop about getting into the kitchen to do all sorts of imaginary but urgent tasks. Son arrived home just before 8 and I really thought that it had flipped her mood over into good. But then daughters headphones were discovered missing - and turned up in Mil's room. Mil is getting a real pain about helping herself to other people's stuff at the moment
Aside from the CD's she snaffled from DC last week, she's also been found in possession of sweets she has lifted from DC and when I went to get her stuff ready for her respite stay last week, I found 3 items of brand new make up, that I'd bought and assumed I'd lost before I even got them home, a couple of weeks ago - I'd left them in a bag, with other stuff, on the dining room table and discovered them missing when I took the bag upstairs to put the make up and a couple of other things away, the next day - I honestly thought I'd lost them whilst out - till I found them hidden at the very back of Mils undie drawer, wrapped in tissues - actually, a lipstick that was part of the missing stuff still hasn't turned up. Anyway, back to last night - we should have been more discrete and tactful about handling it, Mil realised we had found the headphones in her room and instantly launched into an indignant rant about how dau must have left them there herself, when she had 'shared a room with me last night', Mil insisted. She was assured that it was OK, they must have found there way there in error, not to worry, no one was accusing her of stealing - too late, she was off! She was going home, give her her coat now, insults hurled towards me as she said that she knew I was taking my dau's side and accusing her (Mil) of stealing. She was so blooming rude - Mil at her offensive best, I'm afraid - that I really struggled to keep patience (not easy when you don't feel the best) and I was glad when she agreed to OH's suggestion of meds and bed. She was as Ok as she ever is while I helped her undress, only a couple of off remarks and a lot of redirection to the task in hand needed, but as soon as she was ready and heading for her room, I got a couple of nasty comments thrown over her shoulder at me - including a remark that it was wrong of me to favour one of my children over another. Pretty sure I was back to being her Mum again in her head. All quiet for an hour and a half, then she was back downstairs, and very obviously in a mood. She started by demanding tea, OH told her she could have water, milk or squash (we've agreed we are not starting late night cuppa's as a loop!) to take back to her room, got her her choice of milk and told her he would carry it up for her. She then demanded food - having packed away ribs, oven chips and salad for her tea - which was refused and she stormed up the stairs complaining she hadn't been fed all day.
We could hear her shuffling round upstairs afterwards - all doors locked so not much she could do - and went up to bed ourselves about 40 minutes later when it sounded like she had settled. She hadn't! OH came out of the bathroom to find her heading down the stairs and she was steaming. The smirk in place, really nasty attitude, she said she was going to get herself tea and bread and jam! (She doesn't even like jam!) OH got her back to bed and after a brief but intense argument over her insisting she always sleeps with the door open - she doesn't - she finally settled.
This business of ehr coming back downstairs an hour or so after she has gone to bed is really annoying - just when you think you can relax, she is popping up again and then we end up quite wound up before we try to go to bed and sleep ourselves
I also heard from the CPN yesterday, who tells me that the latest locum may well be in post for several months, and after hearing that the PRN meds are completely useless, has asked me to take Mil to see this new chap - I've reluctantly agreed, but warned her that if he presents me with a completely different opinion again and wants sweeping med changes, that he can s*d off - I've made it clear how fed up I am over this whole business of no continuity and being dumped with the chaos and after effects of such sweeping changes at the whim of whoever happens to be in charge each time we visit - Mil isn't a flipping guinea pig. We'll see what happens, I guess!
Dau still not well enough for school, so planning a quietish day here once Mil has gone to DC. Hoping oldest can make it home tonight (depends on if she has managed to get all her own marking and planning done or not - if not, she says she will do that tonight and be home early tomorrow) and intend to make a big pot of home made veggie chilli for tea (mil will have something different, of course) that being a big fave with everyone and very easy to make. Son is off to town on his own Christmas shopping expedition this morning, so might try and get the last of his pressies wrapped while he is out
Hope you all have a good day - I can hear Mil's fairy footsteps lumbering round upstairs so think I'll have to go sort her before she wakes the whole house!
