Some two years ago I wrote the following post abut my feelings on the vexed subject of funding of dementia and cancer
Now two years on I find that my thoughts at that time have not changed .
Being personally involved with my wife's Alzheimer's and my continued membership of TP I have a very good knowledge of the traumatic experiences of so many people who write on this forum
I still feel for those who suffer in so many ways with the exhausting and never ending need to care for their loved ones- but, as I witnessed during my months in hospital and subsequent treatment at the Macmillan Unit so many of the cancer victims are young people , with many years of fruitful life in front of them if a cure can be found .
jimbo
Posted two years ago--------
" I find the topic of comparing the money spent on cancer or dementia very disturbing
It would be a wonderful world if we could afford to fund research and care for all the major diseases ,and we all have our own views on where the money will be best spent
My anxiety arises out of the comparisons made about the funding and care of cancer and dementia ( in all their forms )
.................Many may disagree with me , and as I read this back I am aware that it is a bit of a ramble
,but the writing of it has helped me to understand my own thoughts
I see no reason why I should have upset members and I hope I have not done so, I also have suffered my own traumas
In fact apart from helping me to understand myself ,I am sure that this post will be read by a few and ’lost’ in a couple of days
jimbo 111
I can see your point of view but my mum's dementia started when she was in her late 50s and she also had several children (me being one of them!). Because she's not in physical pain doesn't mean she hasn't be terrified, depressed or in danger.
I've had to deal with nearly all of mum's illness alone, with no support. Thinking about it, I'm not suggesting this is offered on the NHS but it's a shame something isn't available like Hospicecare. Why is my friend's suffering worse because her mum is dying of cancer? My mum's being slowly taken away from me for many years and it gets more painful by the day. Why is she entitled to reflexology, counselling( and some other stuff I can't remember) and I'm not?
I'm being completely selfish, it's just sometimes I feel very alone. My husband doesn't want to hear about it. Friends can't understand. I want a foot massage!!! lol.
I hope you're better now.
xx