Hubby going into CH for respite

[Scarlett123]

Pam, by posting this photo, I reckon you've performed a great service, for all the other carers out there, who are debating whether or not their loved one will be content in a Care Home. This is probably the most agonising decision any of us have to make - I know it was for me when John became a resident.

A picture paints a thousand words, and it is easy to see that Ed looks relaxed, happy and incredibly smart! Knowing how worried you were before, so many of us were worried for you. But to know that he's now receiving good care, and looks completely untroubled, is wonderful.

Please try to get some of the "you" back into your life now. The first thing I did was catch up on some of the sleep that I hadn't had for years. You've done so much Pam to care for your lovely man, but we're all only one person, trying as best we can.

God Bless You xxx

 

[pamann]

Thank you everyone for all your kind words, it has given me so much support and strength along this Rocky Road.☺

 

[esmeralda]

So happy to see the happy picture of your lovely man Pam. Who'd have thought it? Expect there may still be the odd blip but you've both done well to come through. Big hugs to you
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[Jinx]

Thanks for sharing the Photo Pam, particularly helpful for me today. xxx


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[Cat27]

Hope you're ok Pam?

 

[Ms K]

So good to see you OH is looking settled and happy. I'm now going to be going down this route with my OH and it gives me hope that my OH will eventually settle once we find a place. Hope you are finding time to look after yourself now and are readjusting OK.

 

[nannylondon]

Hello everyone photo of Ed with his carer looking very happy☺

What a lovely photo as Scarlet said so eloquently this is a great reassurance for anyone worrying about their loved ones going into a care home thanks Pamann xxx

 

[Kjn]

That's a lovely pic Pam , one to treasure I'm sure xx

 

[esmeralda]

So good to see you OH is looking settled and happy. I'm now going to be going down this route with my OH and it gives me hope that my OH will eventually settle once we find a place. Hope you are finding time to look after yourself now and are readjusting OK.

Hope it goes as well as possible for you, Mrs K. It's a very hard thing to do, but can be absolutely necessary.

Hope you're ok Pam.
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[pamann]

Thank you everyone for you lovely messages, hubby has not been very good for 4 days, he has been wandering day and night, no sleep for 24hrs, he says he is looking for his sister, thats me, yesterday l visited him, care manager called me in her office, they managed to get him in bed, he hasn't been to bed in 2months, just sleeping in the chair, they have had to sedate him as he is so distressed, he slept most of yesterday, hope today's visit is better

 

[Trisha4]

I hope today's a better day. So much is day at a time x


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[Kjn]

Oh Pam , fingers crossed today is better xxx K

 

[esmeralda]

You must be worn out with the continued worry and stress Pam. Perhaps this is part of the process of him settling in and he may have these episodes ongoing for a while. Hopefully he will calm down again soon.
Try to look after yourself as well as you can.
Sending you a huge ((((hug))))
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[Shedrech]

Pamann I so feel for you. It's hard feeling so helpless - you want to alleviate the distress, but have no power to do so.
At least that's how I feel. Dad's very unsettled - he too has spent nights and series of nights up and wandering (though he has broken the cycle at times and been so exhausted he's slept in his bed and almost all day- so I don't have the worry of him not going to bed at all.) One night he was literally howling to go home and another yelling out of the window for me (which is the part I find dumbfounding - not his wife or mother???) So his meds are being tweaked and he has liquid diazepam for 'as and when' and the staff have learnt to spot when he is 'on the up' to use their strategies (not often the drug) to help keep him quiet.
To be honest, I am so glad he's not at home; it would have been impossible to have coped. And the staff are so kind and thoughtful; I'm so grateful for all their efforts.
He does have good times, and more so as the meds seem to be helping - fingers crossed. And I know he appreciates my visits.
Sorry - don't mean to be self-indulgent - am trying clumsily to sympathise and say that the staff in your hubby's home will no doubt be working equally hard to support him, and you.
Every best wish, especially for your next visit.

 

[Scarlett123]

Oh Sweetie, it's such a roller coaster, isn't it. Hope things improve soon. xxxxx

 

[Cat27]

I'm sorry things have dipped again Pam.

 

[pamann]

Hello thank you for all of you, today has been better, friends visited half an hour before me, hubby new who they were 2 months ago when they visited us at home he didn't know who they were, hubby was very high, yesterday so out of it sleepy, l know it is the drugs they give him, l do not know how the staff cope with all the residents, there are 35 of them they are very special people☺

 

[esmeralda]

You must be feeling very sad at the decline in your husband Pam. Glad that today has been a bit more peaceful for you though. Hope this is ongoing.
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[truth24]

Just caught up, pam and am sorry to read that things haven't been so good. Hope this is a blip. It took Fred a long time to settle but he got there and hopefully your OH will too. Thinking of you. xx

 

[Grannie G]

I`m so sorry the settling was so short lived. You must both be in torment.

At lease it sounds as if the home is doing everything possible to care for your husband pamann.