Sorry if this has been addressed elsewhere but I wondered what others do for Christmas once their loved one is in a care home?
Mum went into a care home a couple of months ago and after a few unsettled weeks, seems to have settled in well. She doesn't know where she is or why but joins in with the various activities, eats well and seems fairly happy most of the time although she still has her "moments", particularly in the afternoons. The care home staff are lovely and happily adjust their routines to keep mum occupied during the afternoon when she becomes anxious.
My question is about Christmas. This will be the first year she's been in the home and in the past has spent Christmas at my house. Last year she became anxious and went home after lunch, trying to take my dog with her which she said was hers (much to the annoyance of my daughter, whose dog it actually is!). Should I consider bringing her to my house again this year or leave her at the home? I am concerned that taking her back to my house (which is very near the home she left) might stir up all sorts of issues but I don't want her to feel abandoned on Christmas Day. What do others do?
Mum went into a care home a couple of months ago and after a few unsettled weeks, seems to have settled in well. She doesn't know where she is or why but joins in with the various activities, eats well and seems fairly happy most of the time although she still has her "moments", particularly in the afternoons. The care home staff are lovely and happily adjust their routines to keep mum occupied during the afternoon when she becomes anxious.
My question is about Christmas. This will be the first year she's been in the home and in the past has spent Christmas at my house. Last year she became anxious and went home after lunch, trying to take my dog with her which she said was hers (much to the annoyance of my daughter, whose dog it actually is!). Should I consider bringing her to my house again this year or leave her at the home? I am concerned that taking her back to my house (which is very near the home she left) might stir up all sorts of issues but I don't want her to feel abandoned on Christmas Day. What do others do?