My Mother is in denial too, I arranged for carers to come in at lunchtimes to warm up a meal for her as she seems to be eating so little and cant remember what she has eaten when I ask , she was very against it at first and I have to phone her before they arrive so she can let them in but I thought she was getting used to it then tonight I phoned my mother as usual and she was very confused about who had been in the house, and whose house she was in and how to get home to where she lived as a child, I try not to, but do get cross that she is unable to realize that she is in her house, and I started talking quite loudly to her just trying to explain that everything is as it should be, it is so frustrating though I know she cant help it, I even suggested to her that maybe she should see her doctor to get some tablets to her calm down but she said no that will make things worse, then I rang back an hour later hoping that she would have become her old self again, as she does change very quickly, but no she was still on about where was I as she had just been talking to me and she had been looking for me, and that there was a girl there, she seems to think someone else is in the house a lot and does it when I am staying with her, is this usual with dementia? but in the morning she does not remember saying anything about it, how can I agree with her to calm her down when she goes on about getting the bus home and non existent people being in the house, she was fine this morning and I felt I could relax for a change and last night I slept the longest I had in weeks, now I feel shaky again wondering what is the best thing to do, though from past experience I’m sure she will be fine in the morning again its just the not knowing, and being the only one trying to care for her.