to have been married to my hubby for 66 years last Thursday 17/9/2015. He is 87 and I am 85 and his carer.
He now has Short Term Memory Dementia and to witness how he has changed over the past two years is both very sad and frustrating. He can get verbally aggressive at times but never offered to raise his hands to me so far although he has been very abrasive with his nasty remarks. I know he does not realise what he is doing so I try to reason with him and get him to do something that I know he likes.
We both have a computer because I have a big WW2 website because I was an evacuee from the London Blitz and hubby had one to play his Solitaire on and to send an e-mail to our son and lovely granddaughter.
He has always been a fan of the big bands and about a year ago I found quite a few U-tubes out for him to watch on his computer of Glen Miller and all the other big band names. Its wonderful to SEE him come back to his old self and able to tell me the life stories of each band leader and of many who played in the bands as he is watching them.
I also encourage him each evening to send an e-mail to our son and lovely d-i-l and our super granddaughter and her hubby and to put his music tapes on that hold hundreds of recordings from days gone by.
Music seems to break through a barrier in the patients brain and it certainly has helped in my own circumstances.
He now has Short Term Memory Dementia and to witness how he has changed over the past two years is both very sad and frustrating. He can get verbally aggressive at times but never offered to raise his hands to me so far although he has been very abrasive with his nasty remarks. I know he does not realise what he is doing so I try to reason with him and get him to do something that I know he likes.
We both have a computer because I have a big WW2 website because I was an evacuee from the London Blitz and hubby had one to play his Solitaire on and to send an e-mail to our son and lovely granddaughter.
He has always been a fan of the big bands and about a year ago I found quite a few U-tubes out for him to watch on his computer of Glen Miller and all the other big band names. Its wonderful to SEE him come back to his old self and able to tell me the life stories of each band leader and of many who played in the bands as he is watching them.
I also encourage him each evening to send an e-mail to our son and lovely d-i-l and our super granddaughter and her hubby and to put his music tapes on that hold hundreds of recordings from days gone by.
Music seems to break through a barrier in the patients brain and it certainly has helped in my own circumstances.