My parents both have dementia. They live at home in their own apartment at the moment but it is clear that at some point we need to consider a care home. They are both adamant that they do not want to go into a care home. I am currently starting to look at care homes but I am not at this moment involving them. This is where I need some advise. I know that if I take them they will just be sad because they don't want to go and after a few days or at least when the time comes they will not be able to remember that they were there. Of cause it would be great if they were there and were part of the decision. And maybe I am just trying to take to take the easy way out - I am not sure?? And I feel terribly guilty as well for going behind their backs.
So the question is whether I make them sad now and at least suggest that they come out with me knowing that they will be really sad or whether I check a few out and when it comes to the time suggest one or two that we can visit at that time or whether I take them out with me now for them to be part of the decision process.
Have anybody got any suggestions? - or experience?
Thanks for the help
Regards
Lotchen
So the question is whether I make them sad now and at least suggest that they come out with me knowing that they will be really sad or whether I check a few out and when it comes to the time suggest one or two that we can visit at that time or whether I take them out with me now for them to be part of the decision process.
Have anybody got any suggestions? - or experience?
Thanks for the help
Regards
Lotchen