Hi there,
My parents both have Alzheimers. They've been living 3 hours drive away from me independently with carers help up until June but my Dad was ill with a UTI in June, was admitted to hospital for a month and everything went downhill quite rapidly.
I moved them to respite care near me in July and am wanting to make this a permanent arrangement as I am really happy with the care home and am very sure that they won't cope or be safe moving back home - even though my Dad is in better physical health - mentally they are just not up to it.
However....my parents are both adamant they are returning home. They think they are on holiday and are constanty 'going home tomorrow'. I am being very vague and saying 'just a few more days' and pointing out the benefits of being where they are but they are insistant they can cope at home and will be back their soon. Sometimes they come across as quite lucid...equally sometimes not and they believe they are on a cruise ship, in a flat they have bought, in a hotel. They've been their 6 weeks but generally think they've only arrived that morning.
I will have to sell their house to fund a long term residential arrangement. But if I ask my Dad's permission he will definitely say no as he believes they are going home. Do I need his permission? I have POA. Does someone professional need to confirm that he lacks capacity in order for me to proceed with the house sale or indeed to make a permanent residential agreement on their behalf. I'm talking about my Dad because he is the strongest of the two and my Mum will pretty much go along with whatever I say.
I'm feeling very unconfident in my decision -making and am an only child so no family help. I want to do what is in their best interests but am not sure how that fits in with consent / capacity issues etc. Social Services are not being that helpful and basically say it's up to me.
Any advice gratefully received - feeling very overwhelmed but know I need to make a decision
My parents both have Alzheimers. They've been living 3 hours drive away from me independently with carers help up until June but my Dad was ill with a UTI in June, was admitted to hospital for a month and everything went downhill quite rapidly.
I moved them to respite care near me in July and am wanting to make this a permanent arrangement as I am really happy with the care home and am very sure that they won't cope or be safe moving back home - even though my Dad is in better physical health - mentally they are just not up to it.
However....my parents are both adamant they are returning home. They think they are on holiday and are constanty 'going home tomorrow'. I am being very vague and saying 'just a few more days' and pointing out the benefits of being where they are but they are insistant they can cope at home and will be back their soon. Sometimes they come across as quite lucid...equally sometimes not and they believe they are on a cruise ship, in a flat they have bought, in a hotel. They've been their 6 weeks but generally think they've only arrived that morning.
I will have to sell their house to fund a long term residential arrangement. But if I ask my Dad's permission he will definitely say no as he believes they are going home. Do I need his permission? I have POA. Does someone professional need to confirm that he lacks capacity in order for me to proceed with the house sale or indeed to make a permanent residential agreement on their behalf. I'm talking about my Dad because he is the strongest of the two and my Mum will pretty much go along with whatever I say.
I'm feeling very unconfident in my decision -making and am an only child so no family help. I want to do what is in their best interests but am not sure how that fits in with consent / capacity issues etc. Social Services are not being that helpful and basically say it's up to me.
Any advice gratefully received - feeling very overwhelmed but know I need to make a decision