Hi there, am still tending for my Father, who has got severe dementia now and its been around 5 years, that I have organised, as per his wishes, noted in a Doctors written evidence, to stay in his own home as long as possible. I am responsible for organising the care, cover care, all bills and etc. Its a full-time task and I have no family support at all, I have got 1 sister.
My weekends are now spent caring for my Father, who now wears nappies, so its rather some commitment that I am putting in - whilst my Sister puts zero. My life is essentially on hold.
The Will leaves 50/50 split between my sister and myself, surely the Law must say, well person A does a lot more than person B, its reasonable that if this chap had his capacity, he would want more to go to the person who tends to him, than the Invisible.
There is a lot more that I believe adds to my argument, but I cannot be the 1st to have this issue and it must have been well resolved by the others who put the commitment in.
I must be able to look back in the future and say, yes my Father got his wishes and he showed me his appreciation, in concrete, even if someone else makes that choice for him. I am just exhausted with this and do not know where to turn. I want to be recognised in a material financial way, as I've endured enough, particularly the aloofness & sarcasm of my sister, a hit in the pocket is the only thing that may make her sit up.
My weekends are now spent caring for my Father, who now wears nappies, so its rather some commitment that I am putting in - whilst my Sister puts zero. My life is essentially on hold.
The Will leaves 50/50 split between my sister and myself, surely the Law must say, well person A does a lot more than person B, its reasonable that if this chap had his capacity, he would want more to go to the person who tends to him, than the Invisible.
There is a lot more that I believe adds to my argument, but I cannot be the 1st to have this issue and it must have been well resolved by the others who put the commitment in.
I must be able to look back in the future and say, yes my Father got his wishes and he showed me his appreciation, in concrete, even if someone else makes that choice for him. I am just exhausted with this and do not know where to turn. I want to be recognised in a material financial way, as I've endured enough, particularly the aloofness & sarcasm of my sister, a hit in the pocket is the only thing that may make her sit up.