I would like to ask how people cope with the anger when something is directed at them that simply isn't true. I have read many of the threads with regard to telling lies to our relatives for an easy life and to save them from the distress of being told daily that a loved one has died etc, and I fully agree with this, as it is a case of being cruel to be kind, but my mum is getting increasingly angry with me even to the point of mild violence, slapping me and hitting me in the arm as she seriously thinks I am stealing all her clothes for some re ason. She hides her clothes in a kitchen cupboard as she thinks that the clothes in her wardrobe are not hers. Some of them are new items that she has been bought at Christmas or birthdays but she does not recognise them as being her own, she thinks I am stealing her own (old) clothes and replacing them with second hand things to try and kid her.
It is strange as she forgets most things she is told but for some reason this does not go away and every day for approximately the last 2 weeks, the second I walk through the door, she starts shouting namecalling, swearing (using words I didn't know she knew! and i feel as if she seriously hates me. If I agree with her and tell her I will bring them back, I feel like I am admitting I am actually stealing her trhings, but if I deny it completely she goes absolutely mad. She is so angry and she even started getting abusive and nasty to me and about me last time the cpn came to see her, which is unusual as she is usely niceness personified when a stranger is in the house!
Any ideas how to handle this would be extremely welcome.
cheers and love to you all
Maggie xxx