Hi my mother in law has refused food and drink for three weeks now. They have tried to spoon feed her but she pushes it away or stores it in her mouth. Today we went to the home and they were shringing food into her mouth. We felt this was force feeding but when I spoke to someone from the care commission they have to because as she has dementia she hasnt the ability to say she doesnt want food. And effectively by not giving it to her we are starving her. I was wondering if anyone else has had this we have a dnr and no medical intervention in place from the gp. She has always been quite certainof what she does want. I just dont know where we stand do we have to against whats shes saying if though its really force feeding. She is bed ridden now very weak and although talks is making little sense, so upsetting.