Thank you to everyone for your kind messages. I know it's still early days but I am doing my best to cope and carry on as mum would want me too. I am planning the funeral for mum and trying to include a poem or a short reading about the journey with dementia. If anybody has any inspiration or examples they have used or found please can you feedback. As I want to do my best for mum at her final farewell. Thank you again everybody's support means so much x
Sorry that I missed your post when you made it. Im so sorry you lost your Mum. It sounds like a peaceful passing after you both endured so much. It might be too late, but this is a poem I found that I would use for my own Mums funeral. It described our journey through dementia. I hope it brings you some comfort in the days ahead. You were her everything and we salute you.
by Brenda Houck
Do not ask me to remember
Don’t try to make me understand
Let me rest and know you’re with me
Kiss my cheek and hold my hand.
I’m confused beyond your concept
I am sad and sick and lost
All I know is that I need you
To be with me at all cost.
Do not lose your patience with me
Do not scold or curse or cry
I can’t help the way I’m acting
Can’t be different though I try.
Just remember that I need you
That the best of me is gone
Please don’t fail to stand beside me
Love me until my life is done.
I didn’t ask for this affliction,
I didn’t want this day to come
Though I sensed my soul was leaving
As my body began to roam
Hold me when I start to tremble,
When I stare away so far.
Only you can bring me comfort,
Though I may not know who you are.
When my life is over
And your normal days return
Know how much I loved you
And how much you really learned.
About life and death and sickness
And the pain that each can bring
Know you were my angel,
You were my everything.