I've been lurking for a while but thought I would post just gir the
Benefit of your advice and support. My dad has been in a dementia supported living flat for 3 years but unfortunately they are now becoming unable to cope with his toileting and behaviours and have requested I look for a care home. My dad clearly knows he needs the toilet but unfortunately will go wherever be it in the lounge or another residents room and then resists any attempts at personal care which then sometimes involves rooting and smearing. I'm really sad as otherwise he is really well cared for but the scheme is not set up for this level of need. It's a very small unit which in most ways is ideal but the staffing ratio doesn't allow for the level of attention needed.
I have started looking round at alternatives but I'm scared of what I am seeing. Very large units and whilst there are more staff the ratios are not much better than where he is and they are saying they can't keep an eye on him constantly. I do think he will get lost in a large unit (not literally). To add to the problem the homes which I would prfer have no vacancies and the ones with vacancies have poor cqc reports or I don't get a good feel for. I do hope there is time to wait and I
Don't face an emergency decision. I need more time
To get this right. Thanks for listening x
Benefit of your advice and support. My dad has been in a dementia supported living flat for 3 years but unfortunately they are now becoming unable to cope with his toileting and behaviours and have requested I look for a care home. My dad clearly knows he needs the toilet but unfortunately will go wherever be it in the lounge or another residents room and then resists any attempts at personal care which then sometimes involves rooting and smearing. I'm really sad as otherwise he is really well cared for but the scheme is not set up for this level of need. It's a very small unit which in most ways is ideal but the staffing ratio doesn't allow for the level of attention needed.
I have started looking round at alternatives but I'm scared of what I am seeing. Very large units and whilst there are more staff the ratios are not much better than where he is and they are saying they can't keep an eye on him constantly. I do think he will get lost in a large unit (not literally). To add to the problem the homes which I would prfer have no vacancies and the ones with vacancies have poor cqc reports or I don't get a good feel for. I do hope there is time to wait and I
Don't face an emergency decision. I need more time
To get this right. Thanks for listening x