I really have just about had enough now. My FIL was diagnoised with vascular dimentia which we dealt with for 5 years before he died 2 years ago and just before he was diagnoised my MIL who was his wife was diagnoised with alzheimers. This nightmare has been going on for around 7 years now. We did everything we could to keep them both in their home by organsing cleaners, carers, doing their shopping, shunting back and forth to hundreds of doctors hosptial and clinic appointments over the years with both of them. We had to take over all their financial affairs which resulted in a nightmare as we didnt have power of attorney for either of them, the paperwork fills 2 huge boxes and the form filling and phone calls are almost on a daily basis. On top of all that we live about 50 miles away so visitng on a weekly basis has been a strain emotionally and financially as we are struggling.
MIL has just gone into a nursing home as she is in the latter stages and had a fall which resulted in her breaking a leg. She is skelletal but apart from all that seemingly as strong as an ox. I dread the weekly visits now as there is no recognition of anything and conversation is one sided and if she does respond its utter nonsence. Am i a really bad person to want it to end so that we can have our lives back? we now have the nightmare of having to sell her house resulting in more paperwork phone calls and worry......
I love my MIL dearly but she went a good few years back and all that is left is this unhappy thing for which we are still having to deal with all this stuff for which takes over our life and makes us both miserable. All I can see is more years of hell...
Sorry for the rant just venting as these are things i cant say to anyone
MIL has just gone into a nursing home as she is in the latter stages and had a fall which resulted in her breaking a leg. She is skelletal but apart from all that seemingly as strong as an ox. I dread the weekly visits now as there is no recognition of anything and conversation is one sided and if she does respond its utter nonsence. Am i a really bad person to want it to end so that we can have our lives back? we now have the nightmare of having to sell her house resulting in more paperwork phone calls and worry......
I love my MIL dearly but she went a good few years back and all that is left is this unhappy thing for which we are still having to deal with all this stuff for which takes over our life and makes us both miserable. All I can see is more years of hell...
Sorry for the rant just venting as these are things i cant say to anyone
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