Thought I better intoduce myself.
I'm 23, I'm from the lake district but I live in Glasgow at the moment. My mum lives in Perthshire where I spent time growing up (amongst other places). She has had a subarachnoid haemorrhage a few years ago, she was the lucky 33% to survive and even luckyer to be so well afterwards, she has poor concentration and her senses are affected, she tires easily and tends to be even more emotional than before
She hasnt gone back to work full time but there are places she helps out at and she volunteers for a stroke rehab group.
My gran lives in Liverpool, has for a long time. She has vascular dementia. Her concentration is poor and we often go round the same issue many times as she does not remember the previous discussion or in fact the beginning of that one!
Lately we have observed her using the wrong words and she has forgotten that we where coming down to see her, this is a sign her illness has progressed I think. She has emphysema and bronchitis as well.
The carers are good but she dosnet like them to help her and wont allow as many as we and social services think she needs, she tried to sack them sometimes and has sacked various cleaners and meals on wheels
You have to admire her spirit
I'm a student nurse, I'm half way though my third year but am on time out due to a few things one of which is the situation with my gran. I have been working with the elderly since I was 18 off and on an lately I have been working in a small dementia unit that has taught me well. It's a great place.
My uncle is very controlling, a few years ago now I designed a care plan for my gran and ways that she could take more control of things. I was going down to talk to her about the things we had observed. My uncle intervened and he has lost his trust. His underhanded and manipulative tactics have upset my gran, my mum (who he has banned voice contact with), me and mum partner.
He outright lies, things that could drive wedges between the family. It's disgraceful. Social services where reluctant to set up an adult protection order as there was no perceivable physical threat and doing so may cause more upset than not.
Him and mum are on the forms for Power of Attorney which has not been filed yet. Personally I think if he would leave me and mum to get on with things we would be fine, I am good at keeping up with doctors and nurses ect and mum is good at talking with my gran but he insists on stirring things up.
My latest idea, as you may have seen in my thread in the forum here is to invite my gran to live with me. We will see.
I like animals, I love dogs but at the moment I have rats who are very sweet. I like dancing and most kinds of music. I have started learning JKD at a local martial arts school recently.
I guess you would take me for an arty hippy kind of person if you would come to my house. I'm dyslexic and very untidy but that's a work in progress
Ive recently left an abusive relationship and enjoying my freedom, this time had also given me the opportunity to think about weather I am bi or lesbian, my gran dosent know about this and I dont think I will tell her unless I get serious with a woman, I think she is of the opinion that any thing that's not hetro should be suppressed
but hey she's decided there's no god so who know how her feelings will change!
So know you know a little more about who your talking to