Hello
I have a mum who is in her early 60's and i was 28 when mum was diagnosed with dementia. Its hard going huni, my dad is ill as well he has heart disease and has spent a lot of time in hospital so I don't have him to care for my mum. I felt exactly the same as you, everyone around me was a lot older and they were there for me but i felt so alone. I don't know whether you cope with it better when your older but its a big thing for someone under 30 to take on and cope with.
I've had to learn all the legal stuff, ive become my mums atternory, had to get all the benefits in place (which is hard work and you have to keep pushing) and do all the communicating with the health professionals etc....Its really hard going huni and its taken over my life. Tbh I would go to the end of the earth for my mum and do everything i could to make sure she was safe and looked after. You do get through each day, and everyday there is something new you have to deal with or accept, its definitely true when they say that dementia takes that person you love.
The advice i can give you is to cherish every moment wih your mum, speak about special memories, music etcc... and always smile when your with her because trust me that's what will stick with her.
Hope reading this helps you, these blogs/forums have been my lifesavers.
take care
Cheryl x
Hi everyone,
I'm new to all of this. I didn't even know this site existed until I finally had the guts to google "young people who have a parent with dementia". I'm finding everything hard and I just feel like I have a hundred people around who can support me, but no one understands what it's like to have a mum in their early 50's with dementia.
I live in London and my parents live 3 hours away in the countryside. It's killing me. My dad is a hero and he loves my mum so much. I just feel so guilty I live far away but I know my mum (I guess what my mum would have said) is to do what I love. It's hard to explain.
She's just so ill now, it's like she's turned into a child.
My dad is amazing and I just feel sorry for him. It's horrible feeling sorry for your dad...
Is anyone else here going through something similar?
I would love to talk to someone who is... Xx