Hi
I have just registered for this site. My Father was the main carer for Mum, and he has become very ill. He weighs 7 stone and has COPD (airways disease) My parents sold their house, and have moved to a retirement flat just outside of Bristol. They have lived in the flat for 6 months, and Mum's dementia has become a lot worse. My Father simply could not manage, he has carers three times a day, and they were looking after Mum as well. However, Mum was making a lot of fuss regarding carers, and was accusing my 86 yr old Father of having an affair. Mum has recently gone into a residential home, and I am having a really difficult time accepting this. I am constantly trying to devise a way to look after her. My family and I have tried this, but found it a really difficult task, as she was keeping us awake at night. Mum was calling out for my Dad, and searching the bedrooms for him. It didn't matter how many times we explained, she still asked for my Dad. It's so sad and upsetting, and I'm feeling guilty and very emotional about her going into care. Has anyone got any advice on how to deal with this. She has a very short memory span, even forgets that she has eaten
I have just registered for this site. My Father was the main carer for Mum, and he has become very ill. He weighs 7 stone and has COPD (airways disease) My parents sold their house, and have moved to a retirement flat just outside of Bristol. They have lived in the flat for 6 months, and Mum's dementia has become a lot worse. My Father simply could not manage, he has carers three times a day, and they were looking after Mum as well. However, Mum was making a lot of fuss regarding carers, and was accusing my 86 yr old Father of having an affair. Mum has recently gone into a residential home, and I am having a really difficult time accepting this. I am constantly trying to devise a way to look after her. My family and I have tried this, but found it a really difficult task, as she was keeping us awake at night. Mum was calling out for my Dad, and searching the bedrooms for him. It didn't matter how many times we explained, she still asked for my Dad. It's so sad and upsetting, and I'm feeling guilty and very emotional about her going into care. Has anyone got any advice on how to deal with this. She has a very short memory span, even forgets that she has eaten