Having had emergency surgery in December 2013 before my father was diagnosed & at a time when he was maybe just starting with his first signs getting up in the middle of the night having a shave & going back to bed. I find myself in a position of either staying long term on antibiotics so I can care for my father as long as the wound will let me or having surgery to remove infected tissue & be left with the wound to close or possible have a machine on to close the wound. Either way I would be in no fit state to look after my father when I came home for quite some time & he won't have carers in to shower him it's always me as I used to be a nurse. Not even my mother is allowed to help & I doubt she could cope with him whilst I was in hospital. It's all new to us with a diagnosis in January & my mum is finding it difficult sometimes crying / shouting at him in frustration to make him get back in bed. That's the worse times. What do I do look after my own health or consider my parents first. ? A friend has said I should have surgery as if I get any worse then I won't be able to care for him at all & I should look after my health so I can look after him ,
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