Hello all,
It's coming up to three months since my lovely Mum passed away, cause of death "end stage dementia".
I'm still at the stage of just putting one foot in front of the other to at least keep moving, but I'm finding it a million times more difficult to deal with than I could possibly have imagined. The grief, the loss, the guilt, you name it ...
I'm wondering if anyone else experienced their loved one "having dementia" (thus referred to by hospitals, GPs, etc) but there never actually being an actual diagnosis of dementia?
When it was announced sometime last year that GPs were to be given a bonus for diagnosing dementia, I was surprised because I already thought GPs were given a bonus for NOT diagnosing it, so reluctant was Mum's GP to address the question. In not giving a diagnosis, it meant Mum missed out on possible medication to slow down the progress, and she also missed out on attending such things as memory clinics, which I believe is what happens once a diagnosis is arrived at. She was given absolutely no support with her dementia either medically, socially or psychologically.
Each time I asked her GP to come to visit Mum, he was quite casual about Mum's state of mind, and addressed her "forgetfulness" in what he obviously thought was a jovial and light-hearted manner.
His rule of thumb was whether Mum knew that when it went dark she needed to go to bed, and whether she knew in the morning that she needed to get up. She did go to bed and get up because the carers came at these times. When he asked the usual "what's the prime minister's name" type of questions, and she had no idea, he just said, well, who needs to know that anyway. I pointed out that unless she was prompted she had no idea what she should be doing, or when, but he just seemed to do the medical equivalent of putting his hands over his ears while humming a tune.
I definitely got the impression over time that to diagnose dementia would have taken up too much NHS and social services times, and that the GP was unofficially discouraged from doing it. At this stage Mum was in sheltered accommodation.
Am wondering if anyone else experienced the same from their GP?
Best wishes to all,
wob x
It's coming up to three months since my lovely Mum passed away, cause of death "end stage dementia".
I'm still at the stage of just putting one foot in front of the other to at least keep moving, but I'm finding it a million times more difficult to deal with than I could possibly have imagined. The grief, the loss, the guilt, you name it ...
I'm wondering if anyone else experienced their loved one "having dementia" (thus referred to by hospitals, GPs, etc) but there never actually being an actual diagnosis of dementia?
When it was announced sometime last year that GPs were to be given a bonus for diagnosing dementia, I was surprised because I already thought GPs were given a bonus for NOT diagnosing it, so reluctant was Mum's GP to address the question. In not giving a diagnosis, it meant Mum missed out on possible medication to slow down the progress, and she also missed out on attending such things as memory clinics, which I believe is what happens once a diagnosis is arrived at. She was given absolutely no support with her dementia either medically, socially or psychologically.
Each time I asked her GP to come to visit Mum, he was quite casual about Mum's state of mind, and addressed her "forgetfulness" in what he obviously thought was a jovial and light-hearted manner.
His rule of thumb was whether Mum knew that when it went dark she needed to go to bed, and whether she knew in the morning that she needed to get up. She did go to bed and get up because the carers came at these times. When he asked the usual "what's the prime minister's name" type of questions, and she had no idea, he just said, well, who needs to know that anyway. I pointed out that unless she was prompted she had no idea what she should be doing, or when, but he just seemed to do the medical equivalent of putting his hands over his ears while humming a tune.
I definitely got the impression over time that to diagnose dementia would have taken up too much NHS and social services times, and that the GP was unofficially discouraged from doing it. At this stage Mum was in sheltered accommodation.
Am wondering if anyone else experienced the same from their GP?
Best wishes to all,
wob x