Hi
My mum was diagnosed with early stage dementia towards the end of last year. I've known for some time and was the driving force behind her being assessed and then diagnosed.
My dad has always been very much alpha male, always in control of things and always had a fairly short fuse!
My mum is very low and I would say depressed. The poor woman also had to have a mastectomy in November so more than ever needs some careful handling.
I totally understand how draining it can be with mum sometimes, but my dad doesn't seem to be able to say anything pleasant to her. It's almost as though he blames her for getting Alzheimers, like its her fault! He barks at her and speaks in HR most awful tone of voice......which makes her so anxious. It's uncomfortable to be around. I ended up in a huge argument with my dad (who for his faults I love very much) but half way through me telling him he cannot treat mum like this, he got up and walked out. He has never mentioned this episode since but continues to speak to her appaulingly.
I'm at my wits end and my mum is like a broken woman. Im not sure who to turn to? I've taken leaflets round to their house and explained there are groups we can all go to.....it falls on deaf ears.....
Has anyone else experienced anything similar?
My mum was diagnosed with early stage dementia towards the end of last year. I've known for some time and was the driving force behind her being assessed and then diagnosed.
My dad has always been very much alpha male, always in control of things and always had a fairly short fuse!
My mum is very low and I would say depressed. The poor woman also had to have a mastectomy in November so more than ever needs some careful handling.
I totally understand how draining it can be with mum sometimes, but my dad doesn't seem to be able to say anything pleasant to her. It's almost as though he blames her for getting Alzheimers, like its her fault! He barks at her and speaks in HR most awful tone of voice......which makes her so anxious. It's uncomfortable to be around. I ended up in a huge argument with my dad (who for his faults I love very much) but half way through me telling him he cannot treat mum like this, he got up and walked out. He has never mentioned this episode since but continues to speak to her appaulingly.
I'm at my wits end and my mum is like a broken woman. Im not sure who to turn to? I've taken leaflets round to their house and explained there are groups we can all go to.....it falls on deaf ears.....
Has anyone else experienced anything similar?