My default position is call paramedics, my mom falls regularly, in the last two years she has broken her pelvis, leg and rib in separate falls. Dad used to get her up, or cover her and leave her where she was because she would shout at him if he said he should call someone (he has dementia, not mom), this would put him in a difficult position. If she had fallen downstairs and he wanted eventually to go to bed he would then ring us. This resulted in many late night call outs. I call 999 before even leaving the house and they are usually there before we are.
Dad is very upset by these falls and by the responsibility of dealing with the situation, Social Services have now put a carer in place to see mom to bed each night as that is mostly the time she falls, this was prompted by a fall in which mom only received bruising but a couple of days later it turned out dad had damaged his thumb because he had fallen trying to catch her. The phrase 'two vulnerable adults' seemed to get things moving, the nurse who saw dad in A and E got the ball rolling and the SW was very good to be honest, apart from being a bit slow on the paperwork side of things probably due to workload I've found her very sensible and supportive. People tend to regard involving the various services as a last resort but we have been dealing with a situation we just couldn't have carried on with alone.
The carer visits have reduced the falls dramatically, but not totally. When they found mom on the floor before Christmas they called the paramedic, then their office, the office called me later to say she had fallen, had been checked by paramedic who had seen mom into bed and that she was fine now, not to worry. I'm sure if the paramedic was concerned we would have been asked if we wanted to attend immediately.
They just don't 'bounce' too well as they get older, mom is worried that if they call for help she will go to hospital and then not be allowed home after. As a result she puts pressure on dad to get her up, or hide the fall from anyone. Dad gets so upset trying to do the right thing but he is now calling for help far sooner bless him. Mom has a pendant and a falls alarm, but having it and wearing it are two different things! It went off once in the night and dad was frightened by the box 'talking' to ask if they were ok so now mom says she doesn't want to wear it. The Physio has persuaded her that she wear the wrist strap in the day when she gets up until bedtime, and the pendant now hangs off her walker so if she makes a trip to the loo in the night the pendant should be hanging off the walker at a height she can reach from the floor. It's a compromise, but better than them both being thrown on the bedside table.
I'd ask the Agency what their protocol is for dealing with falls.
I'm desperately trying to persuade them that a move to extra care housing is needed, because I need the reassurance that there is someone there 24/7 to support dad if he's put in the position of responsibility for mom after a fall, he can raise the alarm (cord in every room) to the team on site and they can then take the decisions out of his hands about what to do next. I also hope the smaller floor plan and single floor layout will help, otherwise I can see mom going into hospital then a home and dad being left alone until his dementia puts him in a home too. It's inevitable I guess that they will be separated but I'm trying to keep this at bay as long as I can.