my father has been diagnosed with dementia but my mother is very reluctant to accept this.We have been advised by a solicitor to apply to the court of protection to appoint a deputy but my mother feels like we are going behind dads back.Can we apply for power of attorney or does it have to be court of protection?There is money in joint bank accounts and one account solely in dads name we are wanting mum to put joint account money into account in her name only to protect finances should dad need to go in care home, is this allowed?Does dads pension have to be paid into his account or can it be paid into mums account?Mum has also been told she can apply for attendance allowance but she feels guilty about this and is very reluctant to apply!Feel like we are going round in circles trying to sort things out!