My Mother In Law suffered from a minor stroke about 5 years ago and since then she has been progressively deteriorating mentally. She is now significantly aphasic, to the extent that someone who doesn't know her would find it virtually impossible to determine what she is trying to say. She hasn't been definitively diagnosed with dementia but this is in part because she refuses to co-operate with the diagnostic procedure. She refuses to accept that she needs any help but is becoming more and more confused, especially when out of the house on her own.
She is getting to the point where she needs a daily carer. Neither my wife nor her sister are able to provide this level of support themselves. However, in addition to becoming increasingly confused my MIL is also losing her ability to regulate her behaviour with the result that she is becoming increasingly difficult and rude. What she wants is for my wife or her sister to be her live-in carer but that isn't going to happen.
When we raise the possibility of providing a carer she point-blank refuses and protests that she doesn't need one although it is quite clear to us from recent incidents that she does. If we were to provide a carer for her I doubt that the situation would be sustainable because of the unacceptable way she would behave towards that individual. She is increasingly attempting to force herself on my wife and her sister in order to cajole them into looking after her daily needs which they simply can't do, although they both provide as much support as possible.
Has anyone found themselves in a similar position? If so, do you have any suggestions as to how we can approach this difficult situation?
Thanks
She is getting to the point where she needs a daily carer. Neither my wife nor her sister are able to provide this level of support themselves. However, in addition to becoming increasingly confused my MIL is also losing her ability to regulate her behaviour with the result that she is becoming increasingly difficult and rude. What she wants is for my wife or her sister to be her live-in carer but that isn't going to happen.
When we raise the possibility of providing a carer she point-blank refuses and protests that she doesn't need one although it is quite clear to us from recent incidents that she does. If we were to provide a carer for her I doubt that the situation would be sustainable because of the unacceptable way she would behave towards that individual. She is increasingly attempting to force herself on my wife and her sister in order to cajole them into looking after her daily needs which they simply can't do, although they both provide as much support as possible.
Has anyone found themselves in a similar position? If so, do you have any suggestions as to how we can approach this difficult situation?
Thanks