She had 89th birthday recently. The care home she was in closed in September and she had to move to a different one. She has not been able to walk for about 3 years following a fall and broken hip. She is incontinent, and has not been able to feed herself for a long time. she is now having problems swallowing and has been refereed to the salt team. She is asleep most of the time. When I visit she is always asleep i try to wake her up but she is more and more unresponsive. today she opened her eyes briefly but i dont know if she knew me. She has a pressure sore on her heel and this is getting worse, She is on antibiotics for this as it is infected. Yesterday the only food that she had was a yoghurt and about 100mls of fluid.The doctor has asked about DNR forms. The care home manager has said she is very poorly. I dont know how long this could go on for and the care home dont seem to want to say, they are taking good care of her, but i would rather she was allowed to die if this is the time for her to go. I am really worried that she will choke on food i want her to have a peaceful end. I feel so helpless, I dont want her to die alone, and am going too see her as often as possible. I am an only child - dad died 30 years ago so there's no one to share this with. I do have a husband and 3 children and they are supportive. She has had dementia for about 9 years and been in care for 4 years. Sorry for long post