When my Mum was well and still living with me and my Husband we booked to go away in the UK this year for christmas. My mum is currently in an assessment unit waiting to be moved onto an EMI nursing home. She is in the moderate/severe stages of AD and i am torn whether to go or stay and spend all of christmas with her. She does not know my name but still knows i am her daughter just about. i visit her daily and have done so, she has been in the unit since June. When i visit she is restless and gets up and walks away from me, there is hardly any conversation with her at all. I really do need a break as this year has been very stressful, one of my dogs has had mouth cancer earlier in the year and has had to have part of her jaw removed, i have just had a minor op as well and there is all the emotional upset with Mum on top of all of that. My husband has said that i need to get away and rest and is willing to drive back to Kent from wales on christmas eve so i can spend christmas and boxing day with her and drive back to wales to finish off the rest of our break. I feel gulity that i am even thinking about going, It is my birthday on christmas day as well. I have never spent a christmas without her, what would you do?