Hi new to the forum. My dad was diagnosed with dementia last year and placed in the mental health unit part of the hospital, from there we found him a lovely care home. We could not wish for such lovely kind staff. My dad was totally incontinent and didn't speak but was able to feed himself, sit up in a chair and showed some facial expressions when we spoke to him. Sadly just before christmas my dad had a very bad bleed on the brain and was rushed to hospital, they said it caused a stroke on the left side. What little movement he had and facial expressions have all gone. He has been left unable to do nothing he is now just laying in bed. We have been told he is in the last stages the bleed was a massive one, they can not give him any food or water as this will either make him choke or go to the lungs. My dad has morphine going into the top of his leg a machine administers it automatically so he is in no pain. His left hand has blisters on now and the right hand is going a mauve/blue. He just stares into space, I don't even know if he can hear me when I talk to him. Its now been 16 days I keep asking how can someone last without food or water for so long, It hurts so much to see my dad like this, I sat there today and told him I loved him loads and it was ok to go, I was looking after mum and she will be ok. We are just waiting now for the end, just been a very sad start to the new year.