Dear all
I'm new on here and will try not to waffle, but hope someone can advise.
My father has been diagnosed with dementia and his memory is getting progressively worse and with it his temper.
My Mother is very independent and will not go to the Doctor for help or support. Today she came round to me in tears, they had a petty argument that turned into something more frightening for my Mother who says my father 'shouted at her, with eyes bulging and with pure hate in his eyes', she was very frightened.
He is starting to be very nasty towards her when they argue or he gets frustrated, (this is the second time in a week), I am very worried for my Mothers health and how she is ever going to cope as this disease gets worse. I don't even know where to start except I am trying to guide her such as don't say anything to make the situation volatile and to call me if she needs to. Luckily I live five minutes up the road from them but this is starting to become very worrying.
My Sister and I have discussed POA with my father and Mother separately some months ago but it also doesn't help with the generational issues that my Mother does nothing on the household finances, she is a traditional housewife and she is very worried about being able to handle any of this. One good thing is they both agreed that this would be a good idea.
I'm sorry if this has been raised before but I could find nothing on support for a Mother who is struggling to cope already in early stages and how immediate family members can help.
Any advice would be truly appreciated.
I'm new on here and will try not to waffle, but hope someone can advise.
My father has been diagnosed with dementia and his memory is getting progressively worse and with it his temper.
My Mother is very independent and will not go to the Doctor for help or support. Today she came round to me in tears, they had a petty argument that turned into something more frightening for my Mother who says my father 'shouted at her, with eyes bulging and with pure hate in his eyes', she was very frightened.
He is starting to be very nasty towards her when they argue or he gets frustrated, (this is the second time in a week), I am very worried for my Mothers health and how she is ever going to cope as this disease gets worse. I don't even know where to start except I am trying to guide her such as don't say anything to make the situation volatile and to call me if she needs to. Luckily I live five minutes up the road from them but this is starting to become very worrying.
My Sister and I have discussed POA with my father and Mother separately some months ago but it also doesn't help with the generational issues that my Mother does nothing on the household finances, she is a traditional housewife and she is very worried about being able to handle any of this. One good thing is they both agreed that this would be a good idea.
I'm sorry if this has been raised before but I could find nothing on support for a Mother who is struggling to cope already in early stages and how immediate family members can help.
Any advice would be truly appreciated.