No meeting but call from care worker at hospital
Had call just as I was leaving for hospital. I was crying my eyes out on phone so obviously caller realised how very stressed I was. In a nutshell she is coming home, but they know that I have relinquished my caring role and will only being doing her shopping, washing clothes and paying her bills, nothing else! They are arranging for a hoist to be installed and a fall alarm she wears on her wrist. Apparently it alerts them and someone comes in response. She is having 2 carers 4 times a day. She asked me about doing the injections myself and I refused so DN will have to come in and do them. I told her she is not coming home until everything is in place and seeing as Xmas is a few days away I told the staff nurse on the ward today that I do not want her home for Christmas as I am not caring for her with no support in place as once she is home I would be stuffed basically so not agreeing to it until I am satisfied all the support is ready. At hospital mum was sitting out in chair moaning that she wanted to be put back in bed. I said go on then, here is your zimmer. She couldn't even stand up! Got nurses to put her to bed. A physio came over to me and said she's making some progress - you could have fooled me! I told her I'm not letting mum come home until after Christmas when everything in place and physio said she doesn't need hoist. Don't care I said cause I'm not looking after her anymore so you can all battle it out amongst yourself.
This is not the outcome I wanted. However, I must stay strong because I am not going to weaken and care for mum. Emotionally I'm totally exhausted. GP appt at 9am tomorrow.I am giving him a letter about all this and telling how upset, drained and Ill I feel. Battle not over yet, once Christmas eve goes I'll feel better cause then I will know they're not sending her home for Christmas. One wonders, just how bad do things have to get before they consider a care home? Thanks so much everyone for your unswerving support. Sue xx