incontinence problems

[wonderwoman]

Anybody any idea how to stop my dad from removing pad and using anything and everything, as a toilet it is so upsetting not to mention disgusting. Don't think i can cope any longer tried pull ups pad etc he just removes them all.

He is unable to recognize what the toilet is for screams like a baby if you try to guide him there but removes pads trousers and urinates in corner of room.

 

[BabyBoomer]

Hi there, sorry not come across this problem personally, how distressing for you - but probably not for him which is one positive note. Would it work to put a commode in corner of room, if it usually the same place he is drawn to? Perhaps it's the bathroom/toilet room he does not like, is it dark or small ? It's the only idea I have im afraid. Hope you find something that works for you both.


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[jaymor]

It could be that your Father has a problem with his spatial awareness - he is not seeing the toilet. If the wall behind the toilet is a similar colour then the two merge together. A coloured toilet seat might help, bright red seems to be the colour to use. My husband could not see the fridge which was white against a pale cream wall.

Men will be used to facing a wall as in a public toilet so if the bathroom no longer has a toilet that he can see he will use a wall. It is the dementia causing the problem. Not easy to sort and other than an all in one suit that fastens at the back it will be difficult to keep a pad on if he is intent on taking it off. Like many of the strange behaviours we encounter Hopefully it will pass.

Jay

 

[Mannie]

Anybody any idea how to stop my dad from removing pad and using anything and everything, as a toilet it is so upsetting not to mention disgusting. Don't think i can cope any longer tried pull ups pad etc he just removes them all.

He is unable to recognize what the toilet is for screams like a baby if you try to guide him there but removes pads trousers and urinates in corner of room.

Basically your dad needs more care than you can give. Suggestions:

Visit GP and descibe all the incontinence issues/resistance towearing pads/ resistance to guiding towards the toilet.
They should be able to
1. Engage social services to get you an updated Carers Assessment. I would be asking persistantly for a trained Carer to visit to help toilet and change your dad.
2. Set up a visit for you from the Incontinence Advisor nurse, to help you with practical help such as strategies and resources