Told to find new care home

[Billy's Girl]

I am devastated! After settling in his care home for the last three months I have been told that his care home no longer suits his needs. His circumstances have not changed, he has shown aggression on three occasions but not life threatening and I think due to them putting him with patients that are more "far gone" than him and he gets impatient. I am so deflated and don't know where to go from here. He is doubly incontinent, has to be put in wheelchair to go for meals etc and taken to the lounge. I think he is taking up more time than the others. He was willingly accepted with these problems so why now cnt they meet his needs. What can I do. HELP PLEASE!!!! Note the time I am writing this, 4.40 am and just before Christmas. Is there people that could live with me if I took him home, he is so gentle, harmless, but very immobile. He is also self funded to the tune of £90 per day! IF ANYONE KNOWS A SUITABLE CARE HOME THEY CN RECOMMEND IN THE WEST YORKSHIRE, CASTLEFORD AREA PLEASE CONTACT ME ASAP

 

[jeany123]

Hello Billys' girl I am so sorry you are having all this, it seems so unfair, I don't know any answers for you but I hope someone will be along soon who can give you some advise, it is so worrying for you,

Problems always seem worse during the night when we can't sleep.

Could you call for a meeting with the CH and SW to assess his needs and see where you can go from here,

I hope that you can get something sorted,

Best wishes, Jeany, x

 

[sistermillicent]

Is he in a care home or an Emi nursing home? it may be that he needs more nursing if he is in the former. Just a thought.
You really need to have a talk with the staff in the home if you can and find out where they think he should be, and if they can't help then its best to ask the CPN or a social worker, they can't just turn him out on the street. |Hope you got some sleep.

 

[Witzend]

I would have thought a specialist dementia home would be able to cope with what you describe. However if he is being aggressive to other residents, rather than to staff, and particularly if there are non dementia residents too, then it is perhaps understandable, but OTOH they should not have said they could cope if they couldn't.

We had to move an aunt from a residential to a dementia home after she started bothering the non dementia residents, but they had coped with her dementia for a couple of years until then.

Whatever the circs, they cannot just turf him out. My aunt's first care home suggested an alternative that worked out very well and in fact was lovely - if they really can't cope I would ask them what else they can suggest.

 

[Scarlett123]

I'd be in despair if this happened to me, so I do hope that you've managed to contact Social Services today, to find out what they suggest. As others have said, they can't turn him out onto the street, and they have a Duty of Care to provide somewhere suitable. Good luck, and let us know how you get on.

 

[stanleypj]

Just one more example of the sorry state of affairs in some parts of the 'care' industry.

I agree that he very least you might expect would be a suggestion as to where he might be looked after more appropriately.

 

[Billy's Girl]

They did suggest their sister home which has just opened (and perhaps needs filling) but this is 20 miles away as against two miles.

 

[Raffles]

Is their sister home an EMI Dementia Nursing Home? If so even though it is a long way away it could be more suitable. As they say he is unsuitable for the home he is in I would ask for a reassessment, if he is assessed as requiring a Nursing home by law it would be funded by the NHS so you would save your £90s which would give you the money to visit. Also you need to look for Nursing Homes nearer you yourself the internet is the best place. Visit them to see what they are like without telling them you are coming then you can satisfy yourself they are OK. Also look up their reports on the internet. I hope this helps.
It happened to me the very nice home my hubby went in for respite refused to have him when it was permanent said he was unsuitable as required more than they could give. The local CPN reassessed him as needing Nursing care and he is now in a Nursing home 25 miles away but I have enough money to keep my car and visit every day.

 

[yesiam]

I dont know any specialized homes for my 90 year old mother who will detest being cooped up are there more in certain parts of the country?

 

[truth24]

My husband is in a dementia CH that is dual purpose, both residential and nursing so that when the time comes he won't have to change homes. The only restriction on his freedom is that the home is obviously secure but we are always free to take residents out for a walk, coffee or whatever. The care is excellent but this too is the sister home of an excellent nursing home he was in for a short period of respite and came recommended by them (of course) but we looked at a lot others and ended up choosing this one so they were right! Hope you get things sorted soon.

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