Hello, I'm new here, I've been reading posts for a little while now but events regarding my nana this week have led me to post. I apologise this is long, I'm just getting it all out.
To cut a long story short, after a few trips to the hospital over the past few months my nana was diagnosed with the early stages of dementia and a couple of months ago was put on some tablets. She would often repeat herself in conversation and seemed quite depressed, fortunately the depression has gone since taking these tablets but I feel her memory has not improved.
My nana lives quite far away with her husband, my step-grandad, in their home where carers come to give them their tablets everyday. We organised these as my nana overdosed on Codeine back in June after forgetting she had taken them so we could no longer trust her to take her medication properly. This caused some friction between my mam and my step-grandads elderly daughter over getting the help for them because she and her siblings always assumed my nana cared for their father. I suppose she does care for him because he is 90 and has Parkinson's Disease and she makes the meals, helps him in the bath, etc. but she is still his wife.
It was my nana's 78th birthday yesterday and she had no idea, I think that hit me and my mam quite a bit as we went over with a cake and presents etc but she kept forgetting so when we left we got a bit upset. We also noticed that she's been wearing dirty clothes lately so we're trying to sort that out too.
Anyways, the main reason I am posting is about his elderly daughter and her husband which I presume are in their 60s. Last night, my nana's husband said he thought someone was stealing from his bank account, after analysing we discovered they had a joint account and it was my nana just getting money out. Then it came to light that his daughter and husband had taken them to the bank a couple of months ago and set up a joint account for them and they have merged their money together without discussing it with me and my mam first. We are furious, they are well aware of my nana's memory problems and my nana mentioned that they had said to her that she has a lot of money.
My mam and I are actually in the middle of setting up Lasting Power of Attorney for us both for my nana and a will for her too which will be getting signed on Friday. I've also made an appointment at the bank to see what's going on and try and set my nana up with her own account again. Both my nana and her husband were completely clueless last night about having a joint account.
I was just wondering if anyone has any advice, I haven't spoken to his daughter yet to see what's going on but I also want to wait to see what happens at the bank. Thanks if you read this.
To cut a long story short, after a few trips to the hospital over the past few months my nana was diagnosed with the early stages of dementia and a couple of months ago was put on some tablets. She would often repeat herself in conversation and seemed quite depressed, fortunately the depression has gone since taking these tablets but I feel her memory has not improved.
My nana lives quite far away with her husband, my step-grandad, in their home where carers come to give them their tablets everyday. We organised these as my nana overdosed on Codeine back in June after forgetting she had taken them so we could no longer trust her to take her medication properly. This caused some friction between my mam and my step-grandads elderly daughter over getting the help for them because she and her siblings always assumed my nana cared for their father. I suppose she does care for him because he is 90 and has Parkinson's Disease and she makes the meals, helps him in the bath, etc. but she is still his wife.
It was my nana's 78th birthday yesterday and she had no idea, I think that hit me and my mam quite a bit as we went over with a cake and presents etc but she kept forgetting so when we left we got a bit upset. We also noticed that she's been wearing dirty clothes lately so we're trying to sort that out too.
Anyways, the main reason I am posting is about his elderly daughter and her husband which I presume are in their 60s. Last night, my nana's husband said he thought someone was stealing from his bank account, after analysing we discovered they had a joint account and it was my nana just getting money out. Then it came to light that his daughter and husband had taken them to the bank a couple of months ago and set up a joint account for them and they have merged their money together without discussing it with me and my mam first. We are furious, they are well aware of my nana's memory problems and my nana mentioned that they had said to her that she has a lot of money.
My mam and I are actually in the middle of setting up Lasting Power of Attorney for us both for my nana and a will for her too which will be getting signed on Friday. I've also made an appointment at the bank to see what's going on and try and set my nana up with her own account again. Both my nana and her husband were completely clueless last night about having a joint account.
I was just wondering if anyone has any advice, I haven't spoken to his daughter yet to see what's going on but I also want to wait to see what happens at the bank. Thanks if you read this.