How many of us dread Xmas.

[angiebails]

We are fast approaching Xmas and I wondered how many of you actually enjoyed Xmas anymore. Every year it comes my OH gets so stressed up and it always ends in an argument where he sulks all through Xmas. It started yesterday when I went into garage to get my wreaths for the grave and he decided to get out all our old outdoor lights. His ability to understand all the wires is long gone and I had to help even though I knew he would explode and low and be hold the stress got to him and he exploded big time. I do feel sorry for our neighbours if they had to witness his outburst and as usual I handled it all wrong. I said I was going inside to get something just to get away but that was wrong as he wanted to say something and I was walking away. The rest is just to traumatic to write.
So hey Xmas I just wish it could be binned.
But today fingers crossed my 3rd grandchild should be born and I do have something to look forward to. My own little bundle of Xmas joy to take my mind off the mayhem of life I have to lead due to this incurable disease.


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[LYN T]

The rest is just to traumatic to write.

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Sorry you had such a terrible day, angie. What good news-a new baby in the family.

Put me on the 'I hate Xmas' list. I used to love it.

Christmas is cancelled

 

[Ladybird23]

Count me in too. My Mum used to love Xmas, and she always made some lovely little surprise presents. My Dad is in a Ch.............
Nice. NOT...

 

[pamann]

Hello angiebails l am lucky in that my hubby doesn't know its nearly christmas, he no longer knows what season it is, our xmas cards are arriving he keeps says it must be someones birthday. How lovely for you a new baby arriving soon, that will be lovely for you. Xmas is made too much of these days, it starts in Aug, l never did any thing until a week before, and everything was ready for xmas day. Peace be with you ♥♥♥

 

[Jinx]

This will be our first Christmas since my husband has seriously deteriorated. Last year he didn't show a lot of interest and was in bed by 7.30. I don't know what to expect this year but feel a bit apprehensive as I would be so upset if he spoilt it for the rest of the family, especially the grandchildren.

Lovely news about the imminent arrival of your latest grandchild, Angieballs, keep us posted!



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[WILLIAMR]

We have an elderly lady by us with no relatives.
She likes to join us for Christmas morning and is normally around by about 9am and brings some gifts for the grandchildren.
She brings her dog to play with our dog.
The TV goes on but we don't tend to watch it much.
We all head off to a hotel for lunch. There are games aimed at the children after the lunch but the older members of the family tend to leave a bit early to exercise the dogs.
The lady tends to go back to her home at about 5pm to get a bit of peace.

The next day she joins us again for a take it as it comes day. We may go for a run in the car and a walk.
We always tell her to put older clothes on.
We never book a restaurant but we always find somewhere.
If the worst happens we could give her some fish and chips but it has never come to this.
She enjoys the days.

William

 

[LYN T]

We have an elderly lady by us with no relatives.
She likes to join us for Christmas morning and is normally around by about 9am and brings some gifts for the grandchildren.
She brings her dog to play with our dog.
The TV goes on but we don't tend to watch it much.
We all head off to a hotel for lunch. There are games aimed at the children after the lunch but the older members of the family tend to leave a bit early to exercise the dogs.
The lady tends to go back to her home at about 5pm to get a bit of peace.

The next day she joins us again for a take it as it comes day. We may go for a run in the car and a walk.
We always tell her to put older clothes on.
We never book a restaurant but we always find somewhere.
If the worst happens we could give her some fish and chips but it has never come to this.
She enjoys the days.

William

Ah! A Xmas celebration away from Dementia Land. Elderly Lady, dogs, Grandchildren restaurant, presents -even, possibly, fish and chips.How truly heart warming.

 

[angiebails]

I don't dwell on the fact I don't get a card or present anymore as I am not materialistic but just to think of a nice family Xmas without him destroying it. But I know just like my special birthday this year he will kick off over something. I do think my sons are getting a bit fed up of him ruining anything and everything for me all though they do support him in his illness it's hard to watch your mother going through this hell.
Any way my granddaughter has been born which is good. I had 3 sons and now my 3 sons all have a baby girl each. So Xmas will have a distraction for me and now I can go shopping for girls clothes.


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[jeany123]

Congratulations on your new grand daughter, I hope you enjoy your baby clothes shopping x

 

[LYN T]

Congratulations on your newly born Grandaughter. I hope Mummy and Baby are both well.Does she have a name yet?

Love from

Lyn T XX

 

[Neph]

I've hated it for years, my first child was born just after Christmas, she died two weeks later, my dad died New year's eve, not sure my mum will make it through Christmas this year.So I have to say I hate it with a passion, although this year I have a job so will probably be working boxing day and new years day which will keep my mind of it.

 

[LYN T]

I've hated it for years, my first child was born just after Christmas, she died two weeks later, my dad died New year's eve, not sure my mum will make it through Christmas this year.So I have to say I hate it with a passion, although this year I have a job so will probably be working boxing day and new years day which will keep my mind of it.

That's very, very sad Neph. No wonder why you hate Xmas so much. All the best to you and your Mum.

Take care

Lyn T

 

[truth24]

Congratulations angiebails on your new addition, I have a 4th great grandchild on the way but not due till next June. Echo everyone's comments on Christmas. It will certainly be strange this year with probably a few tears!

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[WILLIAMR]

Ah! A Xmas celebration away from Dementia Land. Elderly Lady, dogs, Grandchildren restaurant, presents -even, possibly, fish and chips.How truly heart warming.

Hi Lyn

Fish and chips are a last resort. We have never got to this point yet but we make sure we have enough in the freezer.

William

 

[Jinx]

Angieballs, congratulations on new granddaughter! x


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[Loopiloo]

Angiebails, I do feel for you with you husband exploding big time. My husband was very bad during the years he was at home. The last few Christmases at home were not at all good. The aggression etc., knocks the stuffing out of you, and we do not always handle it well, you are not alone there.

My husband is now in a care home, over three years, and Christmas still agitates him,
he simply does not understand it and what is going on.

We used to have lovely Christmases, everyone came to us and I loved that time. But life changes, older family members gone, and grown up children too as they live far away. Yet even just we too at Christmas could be good. Until dementia.

Over the years my love of Christmas has diminished and now it has gone, I dread it.
Also hate the commercialism.

Look forward to the new baby, that will keep you going. I have just heard our granddaughter is expecting a baby, her first, although not until June- and she now lives in Australia. But it has given me such a lift, I hope anticipating the birth of the little one in your family does that for you.

Loo xx

 

[jawuk]

M husband is very ill in hospital and I'm spending 8 or 9 hours a day at his bedside. Christmas won't impinge on me at all. I won't see our grandchildren or be at any family gatherings but there will be other Christmases and other gatherings but for my darling there won't be another December. He may not open his eyes for days but I shall be there as always to hold his hand and stroke him as he sleeps and that is all I want for Christmas.

 

[Pickles53]

M husband is very ill in hospital and I'm spending 8 or 9 hours a day at his bedside. Christmas won't impinge on me at all. I won't see our grandchildren or be at any family gatherings but there will be other Christmases and other gatherings but for my darling there won't be another December. He may not open his eyes for days but I shall be there as always to hold his hand and stroke him as he sleeps and that is all I want for Christmas.

So sad to read this Jawuk but you know what is the most important for you and your husband; nothing is more true to to the real spirit of Christmas than what you have written.

 

[Pickles53]

I don't dwell on the fact I don't get a card or present anymore as I am not materialistic but just to think of a nice family Xmas without him destroying it. But I know just like my special birthday this year he will kick off over something. I do think my sons are getting a bit fed up of him ruining anything and everything for me all though they do support him in his illness it's hard to watch your mother going through this hell.
Any way my granddaughter has been born which is good. I had 3 sons and now my 3 sons all have a baby girl each. So Xmas will have a distraction for me and now I can go shopping for girls clothes.


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What a lovely piece of news, congratulations to you and the new parents. Does she have a name yet?

 

[jeany123]

M husband is very ill in hospital and I'm spending 8 or 9 hours a day at his bedside. Christmas won't impinge on me at all. I won't see our grandchildren or be at any family gatherings but there will be other Christmases and other gatherings but for my darling there won't be another December. He may not open his eyes for days but I shall be there as always to hold his hand and stroke him as he sleeps and that is all I want for Christmas.

So very sorry about your husband jawuk, thinking of you both x