My dad has vascular dementia amongst other conditions. He has been living alone, and seemed lonely and isolated. With his consent I arranged for him to move to a warden controlled flat near to me and my children. We spent a lot of time and money making sure the flat was decorated and homely for him. We are taking it in turns to visit him every day (previously it was once a week). I've arranged a care package and the new agency seem much better than the previous one.
2 weeks in and he has told me he wants me to move him back to his house. He is happier there.....I'm playing for time, have said I haven't got the energy to move him back just yet. He has moved county and hasn't yet been assigned a CPN over here, where he had had the same CPN for a number of years. I'm going to chase that up tomorrow - but I just feel so helpless.
I have no idea what to do for the best. I've spent near £2K of his money moving him, thinking it was permanent.
I know he just thinks he is happier in his old house - the reality was he was miserable as sin, no-one bar carers ever visited. The major difference with his new place is that he is too far to walk to the shops - I've tried to ease that by me or my children taking him regularly and arranging for the care agency to take him out twice a week. I think some of his problem is lack of control - before the dementia he was a total control freak, to the point of making mine and my children's lives miserable.
2 weeks in and he has told me he wants me to move him back to his house. He is happier there.....I'm playing for time, have said I haven't got the energy to move him back just yet. He has moved county and hasn't yet been assigned a CPN over here, where he had had the same CPN for a number of years. I'm going to chase that up tomorrow - but I just feel so helpless.
I have no idea what to do for the best. I've spent near £2K of his money moving him, thinking it was permanent.
I know he just thinks he is happier in his old house - the reality was he was miserable as sin, no-one bar carers ever visited. The major difference with his new place is that he is too far to walk to the shops - I've tried to ease that by me or my children taking him regularly and arranging for the care agency to take him out twice a week. I think some of his problem is lack of control - before the dementia he was a total control freak, to the point of making mine and my children's lives miserable.