Natashalou, I really didn't respond to what you said, I was so tied up with feeling relieved by your reply. I think I have got to get to the state where I know there is no alternative, you are right, you cannot turn the clock back.
I never considered my mum living with me. I work full-time, but even if I didn't I am no carer. Carers do the job they are trained to do, I am not trained. They work shifts, so they come to each shift having had a break - if our mums were living with us that wouldn't be the case. Plus mum does have the company of other old ladies, even if she doesn't like them, it is mental stimulation from people of her own age. There would be nothing for my mum if she lived with me. She doesn't watch telly any more, she has a back problem, so cleaning is out unless it is at waist height.
Oh, I don't know. I am still talking myself into it!
Thanks, Natashalou. I don't think things will get better for either of us. Keep in touch please.
Best wishes
Margaret
I never considered my mum living with me. I work full-time, but even if I didn't I am no carer. Carers do the job they are trained to do, I am not trained. They work shifts, so they come to each shift having had a break - if our mums were living with us that wouldn't be the case. Plus mum does have the company of other old ladies, even if she doesn't like them, it is mental stimulation from people of her own age. There would be nothing for my mum if she lived with me. She doesn't watch telly any more, she has a back problem, so cleaning is out unless it is at waist height.
Oh, I don't know. I am still talking myself into it!
Thanks, Natashalou. I don't think things will get better for either of us. Keep in touch please.
Best wishes
Margaret