I never expected to still be posting on here needing support once Dad had died. It's been about six weeks now and so much has happened since then.
On the face of it, I think I must seem ok. I have lots of times when I'm smiling, happy even, with everything going on as before and feeling like I should be getting on with things as I now have more time on my hands. There was a family fall-out just after Dad died and my brother and his wife who I used to be close to are still giving me the cold shoulder, which upsets me more than it should. I know I'm not right though because I suffer from health anxiety when I am stressed and this has come back with a vengeance.
But the biggest thing is how much I miss Dad. Now everything has settled down a little I'm just starting to realise how big a part of my life he was. I have time to do things I couldn't before, but I've found I don't really want to. I just want to go and see my dad, sort out his room, give him his lunch and have a cuppa and a chat with the carers. I miss him so much and I just feel like I want him back even though I know it wouldn't be fair.
Sorry if this sounds like I'm rambling on - just saying things as they come into my mind. Thanks for listening. I know no-one has any answers but I just wanted to say it
On the face of it, I think I must seem ok. I have lots of times when I'm smiling, happy even, with everything going on as before and feeling like I should be getting on with things as I now have more time on my hands. There was a family fall-out just after Dad died and my brother and his wife who I used to be close to are still giving me the cold shoulder, which upsets me more than it should. I know I'm not right though because I suffer from health anxiety when I am stressed and this has come back with a vengeance.
But the biggest thing is how much I miss Dad. Now everything has settled down a little I'm just starting to realise how big a part of my life he was. I have time to do things I couldn't before, but I've found I don't really want to. I just want to go and see my dad, sort out his room, give him his lunch and have a cuppa and a chat with the carers. I miss him so much and I just feel like I want him back even though I know it wouldn't be fair.
Sorry if this sounds like I'm rambling on - just saying things as they come into my mind. Thanks for listening. I know no-one has any answers but I just wanted to say it