Thanks for the replies to my last post. Mum is still holding food and liquid, but the DN think is it related to the dementia - thankfully no infections reported.
Don't suppose there are many people awake at this time. I should be asleep myself knowing I have another day ahead of taking care of mum but there was no point me laying there in tears so I thought I would just exhale a little if you don't mind.
Really feeling the strain of being a full-time carer for my beautiful mother. Seeing her deteriorate before my eyes is hard. Each morning she tells me she is sick and that she will be gone soon. This makes me very sad. As well as the dementia blocking her eating, drinking, mobility (I could go on) her cancer tumour is also growing at a pace and the 30mcg of Butrans + Oramorph is having little impact. I hate to see her in so much pain. She can still make me smile though and for the past 3 days has stayed awake until after lunch and is extremely alert which has been wonderful.
My biggest stress at the moment is not my mother, but the stupid agency that have been taking care of her The carers themselves are good, but the agency are a complete shambles and constantly lie about everything. Our main carer is ill at the moment and it is clear that the agency do not have enough people to cover. This is getting me down. Tonight has been the final straw. It is the 3rd time someone new has come in on the evening shift and the 3rd time that mum has not eaten. I was promised that the carer that came this evening would cover until the regular girl came back to work. Upon her arrival the new carer told me that she will only cover tonight and Saturday and I have no idea who they are sending tomorrow.
I'm so tired. I've strained my wrist moving mum and trapped a nerve in my back earlier this week. The Dr has given me valium, but I don't want to begin relying on drugs to get through the day. Just some reliable support would do. Don't suppose anybody knows where I can find a good care agency that can deliver what they promise in the Surrey area?
I know that this is not going to get any easier, but I can't really talk to my husband or family about how I feel. There is so much bottled up I think I may burst anytime now...I think I should go to sleep now and save my energy for the morning. I'm going to need it!
Goodnight x
Don't suppose there are many people awake at this time. I should be asleep myself knowing I have another day ahead of taking care of mum but there was no point me laying there in tears so I thought I would just exhale a little if you don't mind.
Really feeling the strain of being a full-time carer for my beautiful mother. Seeing her deteriorate before my eyes is hard. Each morning she tells me she is sick and that she will be gone soon. This makes me very sad. As well as the dementia blocking her eating, drinking, mobility (I could go on) her cancer tumour is also growing at a pace and the 30mcg of Butrans + Oramorph is having little impact. I hate to see her in so much pain. She can still make me smile though and for the past 3 days has stayed awake until after lunch and is extremely alert which has been wonderful.
My biggest stress at the moment is not my mother, but the stupid agency that have been taking care of her The carers themselves are good, but the agency are a complete shambles and constantly lie about everything. Our main carer is ill at the moment and it is clear that the agency do not have enough people to cover. This is getting me down. Tonight has been the final straw. It is the 3rd time someone new has come in on the evening shift and the 3rd time that mum has not eaten. I was promised that the carer that came this evening would cover until the regular girl came back to work. Upon her arrival the new carer told me that she will only cover tonight and Saturday and I have no idea who they are sending tomorrow.
I'm so tired. I've strained my wrist moving mum and trapped a nerve in my back earlier this week. The Dr has given me valium, but I don't want to begin relying on drugs to get through the day. Just some reliable support would do. Don't suppose anybody knows where I can find a good care agency that can deliver what they promise in the Surrey area?
I know that this is not going to get any easier, but I can't really talk to my husband or family about how I feel. There is so much bottled up I think I may burst anytime now...I think I should go to sleep now and save my energy for the morning. I'm going to need it!
Goodnight x