I am new to the website and was very upset yesterday. I thought I was posting a thread but ended up creating a blog. Not sure of the difference. Have found reading about everyone's experiences both upsetting, humbling and very supportive.
My mum is 89 has mixed vascular and Alzheimers, I feel she is at the end of life stage but not sure how long it will go on. She is a residential home since March following numerous falls and on the whole have been very pleased with her care. She has deteriorated rapidly over the last two months.
I tend to visit on a Sunday as I work mainly during the week and that's when I used to visit when mum was at home. The home is 30 minutes away and work full time.
She seems to spend most of her time in bed, when I went yesterday, found her like a shrivelled up little lady. Her mouth was dry, no teeth and had thrush. I gave her a drink and she winced when swallowing,either so dry or thrush I her throat. I looked at the chart where they write stood, turned etc. There were about 6 entries from early morning saying turned and dry. So when the carer came I said has mum had a wee today not sure, mentioned about her thrush - don't know will have to get the senior. She came and confirmed thrush but said don't know your mum as I am from another home just been asked to do the medication but she would report it.
When I arrived there was some cold custard they had obviously tried to get her to eat but she has forgotten that she needs to. They brought me some chocolate custard and a cup of tea to feed her. Managed to get half of both down her but she didn't seem to have a clue about swallowing and it was dribbling from her mouth.
No one to talk to at the home they all seem so clueless. Cried all the way home and much of the evening. I rang from work this morning and spoke to the area manager who said she was standing in. She listened to my concerns and said that the doctor had been requested to attend and the deputy manager would ring me back. Still waiting.
Don't want to cause waves the last time mum was in hospital they said at the home that because they were residential they might not take mum back but they did. Can they refuse to have her?
Feel so alone, will ring tomorrow and ask what's happening.
Love mum so much but she is suffering and seems a horrible way to linger on.
My mum is 89 has mixed vascular and Alzheimers, I feel she is at the end of life stage but not sure how long it will go on. She is a residential home since March following numerous falls and on the whole have been very pleased with her care. She has deteriorated rapidly over the last two months.
I tend to visit on a Sunday as I work mainly during the week and that's when I used to visit when mum was at home. The home is 30 minutes away and work full time.
She seems to spend most of her time in bed, when I went yesterday, found her like a shrivelled up little lady. Her mouth was dry, no teeth and had thrush. I gave her a drink and she winced when swallowing,either so dry or thrush I her throat. I looked at the chart where they write stood, turned etc. There were about 6 entries from early morning saying turned and dry. So when the carer came I said has mum had a wee today not sure, mentioned about her thrush - don't know will have to get the senior. She came and confirmed thrush but said don't know your mum as I am from another home just been asked to do the medication but she would report it.
When I arrived there was some cold custard they had obviously tried to get her to eat but she has forgotten that she needs to. They brought me some chocolate custard and a cup of tea to feed her. Managed to get half of both down her but she didn't seem to have a clue about swallowing and it was dribbling from her mouth.
No one to talk to at the home they all seem so clueless. Cried all the way home and much of the evening. I rang from work this morning and spoke to the area manager who said she was standing in. She listened to my concerns and said that the doctor had been requested to attend and the deputy manager would ring me back. Still waiting.
Don't want to cause waves the last time mum was in hospital they said at the home that because they were residential they might not take mum back but they did. Can they refuse to have her?
Feel so alone, will ring tomorrow and ask what's happening.
Love mum so much but she is suffering and seems a horrible way to linger on.
