Well have weeks/months considering and umming and ahhing and tears and sleepless nights. I have decided to go for it and put my dad into respite for a week and move to permanent care if it goes ok.
I have been to see the 10 homes my side of town and chose the one I felt was the best. It was the only one that met my basic criteria of a ground floor room with access to a secure garden and en suite.
So I told social services my plan. They then called me back and said he shouldn't go to that home as it is too expensive.
My dad has a house to sell and a private pension. We have worked out he can afford the home I have chosen for about 3-4 years. The social worker did not use the word reckless but basically told me I was being reckless with his money and my plans were ill advised.
My view being how could I expect him to give up his house with large garden and 2 bathrooms for a small room on the second floor and with a shared bathroom. I wouldn't do it why should he.
I realise we may have to rethink in 3 years if he survives that long BUT my thoughts are maybe he will be so confused by then it wont matter so much.
I would really appreciate other people's opinions on this. BTW the home is £760 per week. Social services pay £480 ish in our area.
Thanks
I have been to see the 10 homes my side of town and chose the one I felt was the best. It was the only one that met my basic criteria of a ground floor room with access to a secure garden and en suite.
So I told social services my plan. They then called me back and said he shouldn't go to that home as it is too expensive.
My dad has a house to sell and a private pension. We have worked out he can afford the home I have chosen for about 3-4 years. The social worker did not use the word reckless but basically told me I was being reckless with his money and my plans were ill advised.
My view being how could I expect him to give up his house with large garden and 2 bathrooms for a small room on the second floor and with a shared bathroom. I wouldn't do it why should he.
I realise we may have to rethink in 3 years if he survives that long BUT my thoughts are maybe he will be so confused by then it wont matter so much.
I would really appreciate other people's opinions on this. BTW the home is £760 per week. Social services pay £480 ish in our area.
Thanks
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