He should be ashamed of himself, as should the rest of his family.
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/health/h...y-father-when-he-was-dying-from-dementia.html
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/health/h...y-father-when-he-was-dying-from-dementia.html
He should be ashamed of himself
Why?.....for being honest in admitting how weak he was for not visiting a person who had no knowledge of who he was, let alone who the visitors were. For wanting to spare his family the pain of seeing the old man's disintergration.
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His words above - how many times have we heard them?“I didn’t want my memory of him to be distorted by the illness that robbed him of himself.”
My mum was in hospital dying for 6 weeks.He may have believed that his father would not know if he or anyone else was there but he can't know for sure.
Apart from any other consideration, how could he possibly know if his father was being well looked after if he didn't go to see him?
He may have believed that his father would not know if he or anyone else was there but he can't know for sure.
His words above - how many times have we heard them?
They are excuses not reasons.
Ah, but he didn't give them the option to visit or not. He says he " made sure they stayed away" and even "urged his mother to do the same".
That is totally different from giving then the choice.
It would surely be kinder to let those who wished to see their grandfather do so rather than leave how he is to their imagination.
My grandchildren have visited my husband.
He doesn't know who they are, nor probabaly who I am.
However, all my grandchildren know that their grandfather has dementia.
They will also be more understanding when they meet someone with dementia in the future as they are bound to do.
Ah, but he didn't give them the option to visit or not. He says he " made sure they stayed away" and even "urged his mother to do the same".
That is totally different from giving then the choice.
It would surely be kinder to let those who wished to see their grandfather do so rather than leave how he is to their imagination.
My grandchildren have visited my husband.
He doesn't know who they are, nor probabaly who I am.
However, all my grandchildren know that their grandfather has dementia.
They will also be more understanding when they meet someone with dementia in the future as they are bound to do.