My sister and I recently made the decision to try our mum in a care home. We had carers coming in twice a day. I don't live near my mum (I'm in SE England and Mum is in Edinburgh) and although I try to get up to see her every couple of weeks the burden of care was largely on my sister who has Parkinson's and she was finding this overwhelming. In her head Mum is still self sufficient and she thinks she does all her own shopping and cooking and regularly goes out to visit friends. In reality she has hardly been out of the house for a year and forgets to eat and drink unless prompted and can't manage day to day tasks on her own. We persuaded Mum to do a trial in the home using the excuse that my sister was going on holiday for a few days. She reluctantly agreed. She looks much better two weeks in and is taking part in all the activities and socialising with other residents, so she is doing far more than she did when she was living at home but she can't remember what she has done from one hour to the next and she says she is bored and asks when she is going home. I know my sister can't cope with her being at home again. I can have a rational conversation with mum from time to time and she will see that the home is a good option but then she forgets and asks when she is going home. Soon we are going to have to sell her flat to pay for the care home. How do I have this conversation with my Mum and break it to her that she is not going home?