Mil has recently started to refer to my hubs (her only son) as if there are 'two' of him, a typical conversation goes -
Mil - "Where's S?"
Me - 'In the front room'
She will get up and look through the door at hubs, then return
Mil - 'No, not your S,
MY S"
At first, I would ask her who 'My S' is to her - and she would tell me he is her son. So I would ask who 'her S' is to her - and get the same answer. So I would ask how many children she has, and she would tell me 'Just the one son' - and she clearly could see nothing at all odd in claiming there were two people called 'S', both her son, whilst seemingly being aware that she has only one child
. Now I just let it ride - I'll tell her where 'My S' is, when she asks, and give her the same answer when I get the 'Not your S, My S' in response.
When one of my daughters tried to insist that the two 'S's' were the same person, Mil merely laughed and pointed out that 'her S' neither has grey in his hair or wears glasses. But when asked the age of her S, gave hubby's age correctly - go figure !
This is completely different from when she 'mixes' people up, which she does with all of us - at various times she has been sure that hubs is her uncle/father/brother, and called him by their names. She has done the same with the rest of us - I've been her cousin or an old workmate on several occasions.
We've also had a persistent belief that my hubby is HER hubby, and that she married him 'after her first husband died' - she calls hubs by the correct name, and out of the blue will ask him if he can sort the single bed in her room so he can stay there with her
At various times, Hubs has tried to put her straight - with (dare I say it) really funny results . . . once, he pointed out he was married to me, and she simply patted my hand and told me not to worry, that it wasn't my fault - its was just 'typical of a man '!. On another occasion she burst out laughing and said to him 'Don't be stupid - of course you're my husband - you d******d' '
Mil NEVER would use language like that previously, particularly in front of her Grandchildren, so that response absolutely left us all speechless - then in hysterical laughter - I think it was the shock, and I still can't think of it now without laughing!
None of these instances seem to cause Mil any upset, though, so its easy for me just to go along with them - I feel for anyone where these 'second' people cause distress
xxx