hello
i am new and so introduce myself
I am 52 and my mother is in Ireland ( she got dementia when Dad died)....I am having to move her on 28th Oct from one lovely home to not such a nice home, and so I worry and am not sleeping well and it consumes me.
My brother - doesn't want to know really - he can't believe she is ill and so absents himself and doesn't want to help on any decisions at all. All left on my shoulders and I am raging mad.
Background is that my mother was truly horrible to me most of my life - and I forgive her all that nonsense as she is different now and so that is a bit of a relief.
How not to feel guilt and bad all the time?
I am not living my life much at all - not sleeping etc, not even allowing myself downtime or even a glass of wine once a fortnight. I am punishing myself almost.
I can't afford right now to go to a counsellor.
Patrizia
i am new and so introduce myself
I am 52 and my mother is in Ireland ( she got dementia when Dad died)....I am having to move her on 28th Oct from one lovely home to not such a nice home, and so I worry and am not sleeping well and it consumes me.
My brother - doesn't want to know really - he can't believe she is ill and so absents himself and doesn't want to help on any decisions at all. All left on my shoulders and I am raging mad.
Background is that my mother was truly horrible to me most of my life - and I forgive her all that nonsense as she is different now and so that is a bit of a relief.
How not to feel guilt and bad all the time?
I am not living my life much at all - not sleeping etc, not even allowing myself downtime or even a glass of wine once a fortnight. I am punishing myself almost.
I can't afford right now to go to a counsellor.
Patrizia