sad day

[cheeky1]

does anyone else get days when they just cry?I cant stop just now I now it will pass and I'll be fine.Why am I crying
Im crying
for my dad who Im losing bit by bit
for the unknown journey thats to follow
for wishing it would hurry up
guilt for wishing it would hurry up
guilt at not being as patient as I once was
guilt for wishing I had my life back
anger at my siblings who 'cant face it'

There even feel better for writing it down!!!

 

[Noorza]

Yes I've had those days. I would be surprised if people hadn't. It's so hard. xx

 

[CollegeGirl]

Hi cheeky

I feel all those things at time too (apart from siblings as I don't have any!).

You are not alone, and all those feelings are perfectly normal and common. I know it doesn't feel like it, but they are.

Try to do something nice for yourself today, even if it's only half an hour, ten minutes even. Sit in the garden with a cuppa, give yourself a manicure (are you female? ), have a bubble bath.

But if you need to cry, then cry, because it's better out than in.

xx

 

[Heather E]

Yes had many of those days... you are not alone - and yes it's always good to tell somebody how you feel or write it down ...College Girl is right get some time for you today to recharge the batteries
xx

does anyone else get days when they just cry?I cant stop just now I now it will pass and I'll be fine.Why am I crying
Im crying
for my dad who Im losing bit by bit
for the unknown journey thats to follow
for wishing it would hurry up
guilt for wishing it would hurry up
guilt at not being as patient as I once was
guilt for wishing I had my life back
anger at my siblings who 'cant face it'

There even feel better for writing it down!!!

 

[rajahh]

certainly have some of those feelings. I am caring for my husband so am more or less on my own.

Sad is not strong enough though as a word really

Jeannette

 

[SallyPotter]

frequently, I'm the same as college girl, no siblings.
Went to see my father the other day, he thought i was his sister, i reminded him of who I was but some old 'dears' were saying to me while I was trying to talk to him that there wasn't any point in trying and he wouldn't understand.
I miss him (and my mother, they're at the same home but kept apart as they fight) So so sad x

 

[grobertson62]

Yep I did frequently have those feelings
You are not alone

 

[Kezza44]

Yes , I feel for you.

I totally understand the sadness, frustration and anger (tears for all). Not with any person, just the situation, watching someone you love slip away. You are not alone, and try and take a step back, like others have said, just 10 mins to catch your breath can help. Just a few minutes to feel like you are coming up for air. Talking to someone and as you have done, writing down your feelings is good for the soul. What you have written has helped me too, just sharing feelings, thank you.

does anyone else get days when they just cry?I cant stop just now I now it will pass and I'll be fine.Why am I crying
Im crying
for my dad who Im losing bit by bit
for the unknown journey thats to follow
for wishing it would hurry up
guilt for wishing it would hurry up
guilt at not being as patient as I once was
guilt for wishing I had my life back
anger at my siblings who 'cant face it'

There even feel better for writing it down!!!

 

[julesoli]

Dear Cheeky,

Don't feel bad about crying, it helps a little bit to relieve the strain of caring for your loved one. I cried a lot, in fact every day, at the futility of it all. My husband, who has severe Alzheimer's, was very violent and aggressive, as the illness progressed, and having no children or any family member to help, I got the brunt of it. So I cried. And it did help (I don't know how). Thankfully he is calmer now, though his Alzheimer's has got worse. So go ahead and have a good cry and prepare yourself to face the worst. God Bless!

does anyone else get days when they just cry?I cant stop just now I now it will pass and I'll be fine.Why am I crying
Im crying
for my dad who Im losing bit by bit
for the unknown journey thats to follow
for wishing it would hurry up
guilt for wishing it would hurry up
guilt at not being as patient as I once was
guilt for wishing I had my life back
anger at my siblings who 'cant face it'

There even feel better for writing it down!!!

 

[Anongirl]

Good to hear I'm not alone in all those thoughts

I should change my middle name to "guilt" xxx

 

[dippydora]

does anyone else get days when they just cry?I cant stop just now I now it will pass and I'll be fine.Why am I crying
Im crying
for my dad who Im losing bit by bit
for the unknown journey thats to follow
for wishing it would hurry up
guilt for wishing it would hurry up
guilt at not being as patient as I once was
guilt for wishing I had my life back
anger at my siblings who 'cant face it'

There even feel better for writing it down!!!

I COULD HAVE QUITE EASILY HAVE WRITTEN THIS MYSELF......spooky really! Like I say...when its raining look for the rainbow, when its dark look for the stars.....it works! xxx

 

[seaurchin]

Hi cheeky, I cry bucket loads at times and I find that once I start its hard to stop. You are not alone in feeling like this and I reckon it's a safety valve to allow our feelings to escape a little. I force myself to think of positive things in my life which helps me to adjust my perspective for a while. Best wishes Sea

 

[rosa4077]

Hi cheeky, I cry bucket loads at times and I find that once I start its hard to stop. You are not alone in feeling like this and I reckon it's a safety valve to allow our feelings to escape a little. I force myself to think of positive things in my life which helps me to adjust my perspective for a while. Best wishes Sea

Hi sending you a big hug xxxxxxxxx

 

[cheeky1]

thanks everyone for your kind comments feeling better today.xx

 

[witchpig]

Yes i think everybody here has cried at some point. When i was upset the other day i was crying and my middle child asked what was wrong, before i could say anything my little nephew turns round and says shes making room for happy memories not sad ones.
Seeing as he is only 6 i thought that was a good explianation. I dont know where he got it from but i shall always remember it when im sad.

 

[SnowLeopard17]

There is rarely a day goes by when I don't shed a tear. Some days I could fill our pond - yet it still remains wanting.

There isn't always a particular trigger but they are a release even though it doesn't always feel like it.

'The dew of compassion is a tear'..............Lord Byron

SnowLeopard, with love x

 

[Rageddy Anne]

I can't cry. If I started I think I could never stop. But comfort comes from who knows where, and so often just when you need it most.. Making room for happy memories is one of those . Children can be amazing. I was feeling very bleak one day but not wanting to cast any gloom on a cheerful family gathering. Suddenly a little hand was slipped into mine, no word was said, but oh, how much better I felt!