This is my first post but I have had a lot of useful advice from reading posts over past few months.
My mother has vascular dementia. She was at home alone with carers twice a day and myself every day. i am the only living relative. She usually turned carers away and denied any problems even though incontinent, wet bed daily, not eating poor mobility etc. She was also verbally aggressive. No wash/shower etc for oner 3 months!!
After yet another fall and flat refusal for care link etc etc she was admitted for assessment and 3 weeks ago went into CH as felt she now needed 24hr care.. It is lovely - only 25 residents and 10 in EMI section.
Since moving - now unable to walk , needs wheel chair which she has previously refused to even consider. Still refusing all food, drinking very little. We stayed away for first week on advice of carers to give her chance to settle in. But cries every time I go , is very quiet, does not know where she is - just a lovely big house but she cant grasp she lives there. Lost most of reality. I have been visiting avery other day but am I making things worse? Certainly upsetting myself ! Advice please.
My mother has vascular dementia. She was at home alone with carers twice a day and myself every day. i am the only living relative. She usually turned carers away and denied any problems even though incontinent, wet bed daily, not eating poor mobility etc. She was also verbally aggressive. No wash/shower etc for oner 3 months!!
After yet another fall and flat refusal for care link etc etc she was admitted for assessment and 3 weeks ago went into CH as felt she now needed 24hr care.. It is lovely - only 25 residents and 10 in EMI section.
Since moving - now unable to walk , needs wheel chair which she has previously refused to even consider. Still refusing all food, drinking very little. We stayed away for first week on advice of carers to give her chance to settle in. But cries every time I go , is very quiet, does not know where she is - just a lovely big house but she cant grasp she lives there. Lost most of reality. I have been visiting avery other day but am I making things worse? Certainly upsetting myself ! Advice please.