Feel like a right pain today but things are just happenig very fast here!
I fought tooth and nail for a year to get my mum into respite so tired!
Then finally about 6mths ago she was granted respite to a really nice private home up the road she will now get one week every six weeks her first visit is on the 7th of august her first time in respite but Ive brought her up to see the place and she liked it so is very keen to go...........
Now just an hour ago the district nurse rang she asked me how things were re doc etc.. I told her that I had no choice but to go private even though we cant afford it she asked me if i thought my mum had dementia?? I said am more and more convinced but want an expert to diagnose.
She has now hit me with a bombshell that if mum has dementia she will not be going to that nice home but a horrible place down the road???
I just dont know what to do now my mum is looking forward to it BUT she hasnt been diagnosed yet and the apt is only a consultation surely they cannot refuse her if no diagnosis has been made yet!
What can I do cancel the apt and let her enjoy the respite OR go ahead with apt he cannot say in one session she has dementia without doing tests???
Also getting mam to see this doc was hard enough and shes willing to go?
Am beyond fed up with all this red tape **** anyone advice also was important for mam to stay in this home to see if she liked it as it was my choice for long term care.
What a dilema? Please advise
I fought tooth and nail for a year to get my mum into respite so tired!
Then finally about 6mths ago she was granted respite to a really nice private home up the road she will now get one week every six weeks her first visit is on the 7th of august her first time in respite but Ive brought her up to see the place and she liked it so is very keen to go...........
Now just an hour ago the district nurse rang she asked me how things were re doc etc.. I told her that I had no choice but to go private even though we cant afford it she asked me if i thought my mum had dementia?? I said am more and more convinced but want an expert to diagnose.
She has now hit me with a bombshell that if mum has dementia she will not be going to that nice home but a horrible place down the road???
I just dont know what to do now my mum is looking forward to it BUT she hasnt been diagnosed yet and the apt is only a consultation surely they cannot refuse her if no diagnosis has been made yet!
What can I do cancel the apt and let her enjoy the respite OR go ahead with apt he cannot say in one session she has dementia without doing tests???
Also getting mam to see this doc was hard enough and shes willing to go?
Am beyond fed up with all this red tape **** anyone advice also was important for mam to stay in this home to see if she liked it as it was my choice for long term care.
What a dilema? Please advise