Hello 2 jays,
I'm only joining this thread now at this late stage. I'm sorry I haven't had time to read all what led up to your 'crash' but someone made a good comment about collapsing when there's space to allow it. Now that my Mum's in care and I'm not running at full tilt I feel a kind of sinking. She's being well looked after, I can do a lot less but have forgotten what life was like before the crisis-about 2 years of them! I sort of don't know how to adjust. I have a lot more time for me but the past just keeps replaying itself. And then there's the future to worry about!
You are right to keep to the small things. A few small targets each day are easier to cope with like getting the laundry done, baking a cake or spending time with the kids.
Your Xmas day sounds perfect and a bit like mine. We will be skiing in France then with just me, hubby n 2 teenagers for xmas day-Bliss! Guilt monster threatening slightly here at thought of poor brothers left to deal with parents. But then I have done the big family meal for years (mother always included). Then xmas proper is happening at our house on New Year's day when daughter home from London with new man in tow.
M
I'm only joining this thread now at this late stage. I'm sorry I haven't had time to read all what led up to your 'crash' but someone made a good comment about collapsing when there's space to allow it. Now that my Mum's in care and I'm not running at full tilt I feel a kind of sinking. She's being well looked after, I can do a lot less but have forgotten what life was like before the crisis-about 2 years of them! I sort of don't know how to adjust. I have a lot more time for me but the past just keeps replaying itself. And then there's the future to worry about!
You are right to keep to the small things. A few small targets each day are easier to cope with like getting the laundry done, baking a cake or spending time with the kids.
Your Xmas day sounds perfect and a bit like mine. We will be skiing in France then with just me, hubby n 2 teenagers for xmas day-Bliss! Guilt monster threatening slightly here at thought of poor brothers left to deal with parents. But then I have done the big family meal for years (mother always included). Then xmas proper is happening at our house on New Year's day when daughter home from London with new man in tow.
M