I guess I just need a bit of moral support here.
Mum has vascular dementia and was unsafe to be left on her own any more:
Getting lost (in her own home and wandering out into the communal area of her flats looking for the breakfast room - not a warden assisted place).
Found a plastic plate melted in a mini cooker (she obviously thought it was a microwave.
Could not cope with new digital TV
Not eating properly
Balance problem and often fell
Did not recognise her own flat and getting frequent phone calls, "How do I get home"
Messing up her medications
etc etc
Managed to get her into a Care Home, though she didn't want to go.
Now having to clear her flat.
My problem is mum often asks to "come home", says she is not staying in the Care Home
Doesn't want us to get rid of her things (but we have no choice), we are trying to hold on to as much as possible and divide things amongst members of the family, or sell things.
She has some periods of reasonable lucidness, but often completely confused, so it's really difficult.
Just would like to know if it is normal to feel so guilty about putting her in a Home and getting rid of her things knowing she doesn't like it. Also is it best to tell white lies rather than be truthful.
Carastro
Managed
Mum has vascular dementia and was unsafe to be left on her own any more:
Getting lost (in her own home and wandering out into the communal area of her flats looking for the breakfast room - not a warden assisted place).
Found a plastic plate melted in a mini cooker (she obviously thought it was a microwave.
Could not cope with new digital TV
Not eating properly
Balance problem and often fell
Did not recognise her own flat and getting frequent phone calls, "How do I get home"
Messing up her medications
etc etc
Managed to get her into a Care Home, though she didn't want to go.
Now having to clear her flat.
My problem is mum often asks to "come home", says she is not staying in the Care Home
Doesn't want us to get rid of her things (but we have no choice), we are trying to hold on to as much as possible and divide things amongst members of the family, or sell things.
She has some periods of reasonable lucidness, but often completely confused, so it's really difficult.
Just would like to know if it is normal to feel so guilty about putting her in a Home and getting rid of her things knowing she doesn't like it. Also is it best to tell white lies rather than be truthful.
Carastro
Managed
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