Dear Bastan
Well as you can see, many of us did and will stay and have been or are approaching where you are and have, or do, feel just as you do.
My husband is presently in hospital 12 weeks, and I now know he will never come home. I am struggling to believe this is happening, that he has to go into a care home.
Yes it is like a living bereavement. Your words echo my present feelings and as you can read, those of many others here.
They have survived the painful battle, and you will, as I hope I do too. Also others who are at this point on the ever changing dementia road.
Like you I wish I had found TP years ago. There are no words to express how I feel about TP, how much I have learned from others here, and the wonderful caring support I have received.
Keep writing, it helps, and you too will benefit so much from all that is here and so kindly given from others who truly do understand.
But it is hard. Difficult beyond words to accept. I empathise with you and everyone else in this situation, and everyone who has gone through this. I think you are right, the key is learning to accept.
Love
Loo xx
Sorry for such a long introduction, let me get to the point (if anyone has stayed with me this long)......Since he has gone I have found it hard so to cope. His illness is more real somehow. New emotions, feelings of despair, emptiness and nothingness. I can't be bothered with life, I'm a mess, my home is a mess. I am trying to cope with a bereavement even though he is still alive. A living bereavement is such a true phrase. Is anybody out there living this now or felt like this and survived, please help if you can.
.I try to be strong for them and there are many things I can't share with them. That is why I am so pleased to have found this site, I just wish I'd found you all years ago.........Anyways I'm here now and want to thank you all once again for kind words of understanding and encouragement
Well as you can see, many of us did and will stay and have been or are approaching where you are and have, or do, feel just as you do.
My husband is presently in hospital 12 weeks, and I now know he will never come home. I am struggling to believe this is happening, that he has to go into a care home.
Yes it is like a living bereavement. Your words echo my present feelings and as you can read, those of many others here.
They have survived the painful battle, and you will, as I hope I do too. Also others who are at this point on the ever changing dementia road.
Like you I wish I had found TP years ago. There are no words to express how I feel about TP, how much I have learned from others here, and the wonderful caring support I have received.
Keep writing, it helps, and you too will benefit so much from all that is here and so kindly given from others who truly do understand.
But it is hard. Difficult beyond words to accept. I empathise with you and everyone else in this situation, and everyone who has gone through this. I think you are right, the key is learning to accept.
Love
Loo xx
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