I found it much simpler to operate without my invisibles.I really cannot understand why my brother chooses to be so nasty with me. It is like he resents not being involved in Mum's care and knowing what's going on. At the same time he wants to be able to please himself and be answerable to no-one so that he does not have to fit in and co-operate in the care which is required for Mum (like spending some time with her). . None of this is, in his mind, his responsibility. He wants control but he doesn't want to be involved. I find him hurtful but it is easier for me to try to operate without him.
MaNaAk
PS: I remember when they tried to talk me round to having dad back but I refused point blank because caring for him was making me ill.