Myself and my husband both work full time but have been caring for my mother since March 2021 when she started wandering and now has a diagnosis of Alzheimer's dementia. I submitted a carers assessment back in October 2021 and a meeting with the social worker and my mother took place 6 weeks ago where it was recommended that a care package be put in place for a morning visit and an evening visit. That report has still not be written up and no further action has taken place despite me chasing on a number of occasions.
My mother can care for herself on a basic level and I am happy to assist with her shopping and sorting stuff/cleaning and manging her bills and appointments but due to her getting lost pretty much any time she goes out and heading off in the complete wrong direction onto possible dangerous roads we are living on a knife edge and can no longer cope with the responsibility. I have worked hard all my life and my job is very important to me and I cannot just give up work to look after my mother full time. There are no family members/friends/neighbours able or willing to support in looking after mum. Befrienders seem non existent and she doesn't want to go to a day centre. She doesn't have funds or the room to have carers live with her. We have trackers, motion sensors, webcam so we can keep any eye on her and find her when she goes out but you can't just drop everything when you are working.
So what do I do? I can't just abandon her as she is my mum but we can't carry on as we are. We have not had any break from our caring responsibilities since she started wandering and it is affecting our health and wellbeing.
My mother can care for herself on a basic level and I am happy to assist with her shopping and sorting stuff/cleaning and manging her bills and appointments but due to her getting lost pretty much any time she goes out and heading off in the complete wrong direction onto possible dangerous roads we are living on a knife edge and can no longer cope with the responsibility. I have worked hard all my life and my job is very important to me and I cannot just give up work to look after my mother full time. There are no family members/friends/neighbours able or willing to support in looking after mum. Befrienders seem non existent and she doesn't want to go to a day centre. She doesn't have funds or the room to have carers live with her. We have trackers, motion sensors, webcam so we can keep any eye on her and find her when she goes out but you can't just drop everything when you are working.
So what do I do? I can't just abandon her as she is my mum but we can't carry on as we are. We have not had any break from our caring responsibilities since she started wandering and it is affecting our health and wellbeing.